Muhupenyu hwose, vanhu vazhinji vakazviona vachitarisa ivo pachavo muimba inofadza-mumba. Zvichida iwe wakatarisa wakareba, wakanyanyisa mafuta, zvichida iwe wose wakanga uri zig-zaggy. Asi iwe waiziva kuti chaingova chinyengeri uye kuti pawakabuda kunze kwekunakidzwa-imba, wakadzokera kune iwe pachako. Zvakadini kana iyo inofadza imba yakaguma maawa mana pazuva?
Ko iwe kana iwe waifunga kuti ndiyo ndiyo nzira yawakatarisa?
Chidzidzo chaNovember 2014 chakabudiswa mu Journal of Abnormal Psychology chinoratidza kuti vanhu vane chirwere chekushaya chinetso chevanhu vanobatanidzwa nemafungiro aya anofadza-maawa 24 pazuva paanouya maonero avanoona ushamwari hwavo.
Vatsvakurudzi vaifarira kuongorora maonero ehukama neshamwari nevanhu vane hanya nevanhu uye neshamwari dzavo nokuti tinoziva kuti avo vane SAD vanogara vasina hanya nemaonero avanoona mamiriro ezvinhu. Mune mamwe mazwi, vanowanzogara vachizviona ivo vasina kunaka. Vakatsvaga nyaya idzi pakati pevanhu 77 vakawanikwa vane SAD, uye vanhu 63 vanobva munharaunda, uye vakatarisa kune ushamwari hwevose pamwe chete, uye hukama hwepedyo.
Zvigumisiro zvekudzidza zvakaratidza kuti kushungurudzika kwehutano hwemagariro kunoshungurudza maonero ehutano hwehukama hwehukama hwepedyo, asi shamwari idzodzo dzevanhu vane SAD hadzioni ushamwari mukushata kwakadaro.
Migumisiro yekuve neSAD yaive yakajeka kune vaduku uye avo vane ushamwari hwepfupi kwenguva refu.
Iko kwakanga kuripo kusina kutaurirana neshamwari dzevanhu vane SAD? Ehe. Vakataura kuti vakanga vasingapfuuri muhukama uye vashoma vakagadziriswa.
Kakawanda, izvi zvakawanikwa zvinopindirana nezvatinoziva nezveSAD; inobata ushamwari, asi avo vane chirwere vanowanzovhiringidza izvo zvisingabatsiri.
Mune mamwe mazwi, hongu vanhu vanofunga kuti uri kunyarara zvishoma uye zvichida kunyanya kuzvidya mwoyo, asi vachiri kufara newe kuva shamwari!
Kunyora zvishoma mune imwe tsvakurudzo yakabatana, tinoona kuti zvechokwadi zviitiko zveSAD pane ushamwari zvinotsigirwa.
Mune rimwe bhuku raNovember 2014 rakabudiswa muAxiety Stress Coping, vatsvakurudzi vakawana kuti pakati pevana vane makore 7 kusvika ku13, avo vane chirwere chekushungurudzika kwevanhu munzanga uye shamwari dzavo vakaderera kushamwaridzana kwehukama hwepamusoro kune avo vane mamwe marudzi ehutano hwekuzvidya mwoyo. Mune mamwe mazwi, nepo avo vane SAD vangangodaro vaine maonero asina kunaka ekushamwaridzana kwavo, pane chokwadi chakakosha chekuita SAD pane ushamwari, izvo hazvisi kuitika nemamwe marudzi ekuzvidya mwoyo. Izvi zvinonzwisisika, kubva pakuona kuti kushungurudzika kwevanhu munzeve ndeyekutya kwekuva nevanhu!
Mune chidzidzo cheJune 2014 chakabudiswa mu Journal of Anxiety Disorders, vatsvakurudzi vakawana kuti pakati pevana vane makore 7 kusvika ku12, vana vakapa mharidzo yekutaura nenzira yekuzvidya mwoyo maererano neaivimba vaifarira zvikuru pavaiita nekuvimbika. Zvisinei, kuwanikwa uku kwaive kwakanyanya zvikuru kune avo vakanga vasina SAD kupfuura avo vakaita.
Mune mamwe mazwi, vana vaishungurudzika mune zvemamwe marudzi vainyatsonzwisisa apo vamwe vana vakaita nenzira yekuzvidya mwoyo, kupfuura ivo vana vakanga vasina kutambura kubva kuSAD.
Izvozvi zvose zvinorevei kana iwe uchinetseka nemagariro evanhu? Zvinokwanisika vamwe vanhu vakaita sewe kupfuura iwe unofunga. Zvisinei, iwe unenge uine zvimwe zvirwere muhukama hwako husingavepo kana uine chirwere chakasiyana-siyana chekuzvidya mwoyo. Uye, kana iwe uchiziva vamwe vanhu vane hanya nevanhu, vangangokunzwisisa (uye zvichida vanokubvuma) nenzira iyo vanhu vasina chirwere vangave vasina. Kwete kutaura kuti ushamwari hwako nevasingafungi hahuna kunaka.
Ichokwadi, ivo vari nani zviri nani kudarika iwe unozviona.
Chii chatingaita kuvandudza ushamwari pakati pevanhu vane SAD? MuAugust 2014 chidzidzo chakabudiswa muCommunity Practice, kambani yevhiki gumi nemaviri inopindira inonzi "FUN FRIENDS" yakaratidzwa kubatsira vana vane makore 4 kusvika ku7 vane zviratidzo zvekuzvidya mwoyo kuti vawedzere kugutsikana, uyezve, kuwedzera kukura mupfungwa uye mune zvekugara unyanzvi.
Kubva paFUN SHAMWARI webhusaiti, purogiramu inobatsira vana ku:
- kuisa pfungwa yekuzvidya mwoyo
- dzidza unyanzvi kuti utsungirire kushungurudzika, matambudziko, nekuchinja
- kuwedzera kushushikana mupfungwa uye kugadzirisa zvinetso
- kuvaka shamwari neshamwari dzekusimbisa
- kuvaka chivimbo uye kuzviremekedza
Kuburikidza nepurogiramu, vana vanodzidza kukosha kwekuva shamwari yakanaka ivo pachavo (apo vari kunzwa vachizvidya mwoyo) uye kuti kuva neshamwari kunogona kuva rubatsiro kana zvichidiwa. Purogiramu yacho yakakodzerwa kwemakore 4 kusvika ku16 uye inopihwa nevadzidzisi uye vamwe vakura mazamu.
Kana iwe uine mwana ane hanya nevanhu, unogona kuda kutarisa kuti chirongwa ichi chinoshandiswa muchikoro chako.
Kana iwe uri munhu mukuru ane hanya nevanhu, iwe unogona kushandisa dzimwe nzira dzokushanda pane zvataurwa pamusoro apa. Semuenzaniso, kubvuma uye kuzvipira kurapa kunogona kukubatsira kuti uratidze manzwiro ekuzvidya mwoyo, asi kufungisisa kwepfungwa kunogona kubatsira kuwedzera kushushikana kwako mupfungwa. Kana zvasvika pakukosha kwehukama nekuvaka masangano ekusimbisa hurumende , unogona kufunga nezvekubatana neboka rinotsigira zvakananga kune avo vane hanya nevanhu. Sezvakatsanangurwa kare, avo ndivo vanhu vanogona kunge vari kunyatsonzwisisana nekutambudzika kwaunoita.
> Sources:
> Maonero ezvokwadi uye shamwari neshamwari dzehutano hwemagariro evanhu pahukama. Rodebaugh, Thomas L .; Lim, Michelle H ;; Fernandez, Katya C.; Langer, Julia K.; Weisman, Jaclyn S.; Tonge, Natasha; Levinson, Cheri A .; Shumaker, Erik A. Journal yeAsnmalmal Psychology, Vol 123 (4), Nov 2014, 715-724.
> Kuzvidya Mwoyo Kushungurudzika Kukunda. 2014 Nov 14: 1-14. [Epub mberi kwekunyora] Vana vane hukama hwemagariro vane hukama hwepamusoro hwehukama kune vana vane zvimwe zvinetso zvekuzvidya mwoyo. Baker JR1, Hudson JL.
> Community Pract. 2014 Aug. 87 (8): 26-9. Nekubatsirwa zvishoma kubva kuFUN > VAMWE VAMWE > vana vaduku vanogona kukunda kushushikana.
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Ongororo kune vezera rezasi vanoda kufunganya kupfuura vana vasina hanya. Baker JR1, Hudson JL2, Taylor A2.