Kuita zvepabonde kushaya chimiro chinhu chinoshamisa chatinonzwa nekuwedzera pamusoro pemazuva ano. Pane zvose zvinodhaka, kurara zvepabonde kunowanzowanzova maitiro ejokes zvakadai sekuti, "Dai ndaizova nechinodhaka, ndaizotengesa zvepabonde." Izvi zvinomutsa mubvunzo uyu, kurara kwepabonde zvechokwadi here?
Vanhu vazhinji vanoona kubatwa kwepabonde sekuedza kusina maturo kupa kupa mvumo kune izvo zvinongoita kusava nehanya kana kuzvikudza.
Vamwe vanoti vanhu ivavo havazivi kana kuti havana hanya nemarwadzo ekurwadziwa anowanzotaurwa neavo vanozvifunga ivo vanoita zvepabonde nevanodikanwa vavo.
Background
Kuita zvepabonde kusagadzikana hakusi pfungwa itsva. Historical zvinyorwa zvekudzokera kuRoma yekare nezana remakore rechipiri Girisi inotaura nezvekuita zvepabonde zvakanyanya, inozivikanwawo sehupombwe kana hyperaesthesia, uye nymphomania kana furor uterinum (uterine fury) muvakadzi.
Imwe pfungwa yemazuva ano yekuita zvepabonde yakakurudzirwa naDkt. Patrick Carnes, munyori we "Out of the Shadows: Kunzwisisa Kuita Zvepabonde," uye chiremba wehutano hwehutano hwepabonde kuchipatara muArizona. Mifananidzo uye avo vaaishanda navo vakanyora mabhuku akawanda pamusoro penyaya, uye vanowanzotungamira kunzwisisa kwakakurumbira kwekutengesa zvepabonde. Zvisinei, vamwe vakanyorawo zvakanyanya panyaya iyi, kusanganisira vose vatsvakurudzi nevanhu vanofunga kuti vakatambura nekutengesa zvepabonde.
Goodman akatsigira kuti, kunyange zvazvo zvekuita zvepabonde zvinokonzera zvikamu zvezvose zvakamanikidzwa uye zvinokonzerwa nekudzivirira chirwere, hazvifananidzi zvakajeka kune rumwe rutivi. Akaratidza kuti zvakanakisisa zvinotsanangurwa sechirwere uye zvinorongwa zvinongororwa zvinotaridzika zvinoratidzira zvinokonzera doro nekunyanya kuzvidzora mu DSM 5 , bhuku rinotsanangurwa remakiriniki ekuongorora.
Kuita zvepabonde kusagadzikana hakuna kuiswa muDMM 5, pasinei nemitemo yakawanda ine chokuita nekuita zvepabonde kwakagadzikana-sechinhu chisingaiti chepabonde chishuvo chepabonde uye chirwere chekuita zvepabonde -kubatanidzwa.
Izvi zvinokonzera kushamwaridzana kunokonzera kuonekwa kwechido chakanyanya chepabonde kana kutaura sechinetso. Mune mamwe mazwi, kugara uchingova nechido chepabonde, kukwezva zvepabonde, zvepabonde, uye kugadziriswa kunoonekwa sechinhu chinowanzoitirwa vose vari varume, pasinei nokuti vanhu vasingambotambudziki pane imwe yezvikamu izvi zvehutano hwepabonde vari mudiki. Muzhinji, kuva nechido chakanyanya chepabonde uye basa rinoonekwa sechinetso chakanyanya kupfuura kuva nechido chezvepabonde uye basa.
Muzana remakore rapfuura, sangano rave richiwedzera kubvumirana, nezvinhu zvakasiyana-siyana zvepabonde uye zvepabonde zvichiita hwaro hwemhando zhinji dzevaraidzo. Mumakumi emakore apfuura, indasitiri yemishonga yakatsigira izvi, nekugadzirwa kwezvinodhaka zvakadai seViagra kusimbisa pfungwa yokuti munhu haararame hupenyu hwakazara uye hunofadza pasina zvepabonde nguva dzose, isina chinetso. Mumamiriro ezvinhu aya, hazvishamisi kuti vanhu vakawanda vari kunyanya kufambidzana nepabonde, uye kuti avo vangave vakakundikana kune mamwe mafaro varikudzidzira kuita zvisungo zvepabonde.
Zvekuita zvepabonde mumusoro
Kuita zvepabonde kwekuita zvepabonde kwakapararira zvakanyanya muna 2009 apo munyori David Duchovny - achiita seanofara nemudzimai nemhuri - akashamisika nyika nekubvuma pachena kuti ave mutevedzeri wepabonde nekupinda mu rehab . Kusvikira kuguma kwegore, vazhinji vaifunga kuti kana kuti kwete goroferi Tiger Woods akanga ari muropa wepabonde mushure mokunge vakadzi vazhinji vaiti vave vaine zvimwe zvekuroorana naye.
Indaneti yakatungamirira kuhuwandu husina kumboitika hwehupenzi huri kuwanika kune munhu ane computer. Vanhu vazhinji vanoputirwa nekutengeserana kwezvinonyadzisira uye nzvimbo dzepabonde dzekutengeserana pasina kunyange kuvatsvaga.
Vazhinji vanhu vakawanda vari kutarirwa zvinonyadzisira kudarika kare, kusanganisira vana nevechiri kuyaruka, uye iyo yehutachiita inoita kuti zviome (kana zvisingaitike) kuongorora kana kuisa miganhu pane zvakasikwa kana chiyero chezvinhu zvinoratidzwa. Mukuwedzera, zviri nyore kuwana uye kuitisa nyaya yepaIndaneti , kana kuwanana pakushambadzira kuburikidza newemasayiti akadai seanodzivirira .
Panguva imwecheteyo, kune kuwedzera kunetseka pamusoro peIndaneti kushaya zvinodhaka, rudzi rwekudhakwa kwepabonde paIndaneti , iyo inopfuura kurega rubatsiro rwevanhu vanofunga kuti kushandiswa kwavo kwepabonde kunonyanyisa, kusingaitiki, kana kuti kuvakonzera matambudziko. Pasina kukwana mabasa ehutano chaihwo, hukama uye mhuri dzicharamba dzichirwisana, kazhinji muchivande, nezvinetso izvo zvisingakwanisi kugadzirirwa kutarisana nayo. Iko-pasi-pasi uye kazhinji yakaipa yezvigadzirwa zvepabonde zvakaratidza kusina maturo mukupa tsvakurudzo kana kurapwa mari kana zvimwe zvingabatsiri zvevanhu vanokuvadzwa nehuwandu hwezvakabuda. Izvi zvinopesana nedhizimusi yekubhejera, somuenzaniso, iyo yakabhadhara mari yekutsvakurudza mukurapa nemabasa.
Nyaya Yezvepabonde Dhiyabhorosi
Kutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuti mubayiro iwoyo uri muuropi hunoshandiswa mune zvekuita zvepabonde sezvimwe mune zvimwe zvinodhaka, kusanganisira zvinodhaka. Izvi zvinotsigira pfungwa yokuti kubatwa zvepabonde kune zvimwe zvakafanana zvepanyama uye zvepfungwa sezvimwe zvinodhaka.
Vanhu vane hupombwe hwepabonde kazhinji vane matambudziko pamwe chete kana / kana kutsika zvinokonzera kukanganisa, kana "crossover" kune zvimwe zvinodhakwa pavanenge vachiedza kukunda kusangana kwavo pabonde. Vamwe vanyori vanotaura kuti izvi zvinopa rubatsiro kuhutano hwekuita zvepabonde sehutachiona hwechokwadi uye kuti, kana zvichionekwa, njodzi dzinopfuurira dzinogona kutariswa zvakananga kuti dzidzivise kuti dzirege kuitika mushure mekurapa kune zvimwe zvinodhaka.
Kuita zvepabonde kusagadzikana kunokonzera kushungurudzika kukuru kune avo vanotambudzwa uye vadiwa vavo. Kuda zvepabonde uye kutaura kune vanhu vane zvinodhaka zvepabonde zvinowanzotaurwa kuti hazvishamisi uye hazvishamisi, zvakasiyana zvakasiyana nenzira iyo hupenyu hwakanaka hwepabonde hunoonekwa, izvo zvinowanzotsanangurwa sekuzadzisa nekugutsa zvose mumuviri uye mupfungwa. Kuziva kubatwa zvepabonde kunoreva kuti vanhu ava vanogona kuwana rubatsiro rwavanoda kuti vakundire kusvuta kwavo, uye pakupedzisira vanoitazve hukama hunofadza hwepabonde.
Parizvino, vashomanana vanogona kushandiswa kwehutachiona hwehutano vanobatsira rubatsiro rwevanhu vane hutano hwepabonde. Kuzivikanwa kwekutengesa zvepabonde kunogona kubvumira zvekutengesa zvepabonde kurapwa kunosanganiswa munharaunda yekushungurudza mabasa. Nekudzidziswa kwakakosha mukutengesa zvepabonde kunopiwa kune vanodhakwa nevashandi, vakawanda vanhu vanogona kuwana nyore nyore rubatsiro rwekuita zvepabonde.
Nyaya Yokurwisa Zvepabonde Kutengesa
Kugutsikana kunokosha kwepabonde yekunyengedzwa kwepabonde ndechokuti hahupi hupi hunosiyanisa zvakakwana pakati pemamiriro akasiyana-siyana angaita sekutengesa zvepabonde, zvakadai sekuita zvepabonde pamwe chete nemana kana hypomania mu bipolar disorder; character disorders; unhu hunetso; mamwe maitiro ekuora mwoyo; OCD uye PTSD.
Vatsoropodzi vechirangariro chekuita zvepabonde vanotaura kuti yakakura kubva pane tsika inowanzobatana pabonde nedambudziko, kusina simba, uye kushungurudzika, uye inongova nzira itsva yekutonga tsika pamusoro pevanhu vanofarira zvepabonde. Sezvo zvakadaro, inogona kushandiswa nevanhu vane zvematongerwo enyika uye / kana zvechitendero kuti vasave nehutano hwepabonde.
Panewo mungozi kuti chirevo chekudhakwa kwepabonde chinogona kuisa pathologi chido chepabonde chiito uye mufambiro, kuita kuti vanhu vane utano vaonekwe vane chirwere chisipo. Pfungwa yekushungurudza zvepabonde yakatsoropodzwa nokuti yakabva pane pfungwa yokuti zvimwe zvido zvepabonde, somuenzaniso, hukama hwepedyo hwepabonde, hwakanaka kudarika vamwe. Izvi zvinopikiswa kuva netsika panzvimbo pechipatara.
Kune rumwe rutivi rwomutambo, vamwe vanhu vanodavira kuti mazita akadai sehutano hwepabonde anogona kushandiswa sechikonzero chekutadza kuita zvepabonde kusina hanya, zvakadai sokubatwa chibharo uye kubatwa kwevana. Maererano nekutsoropodzwa, vanhu vakaita zvepabonde mhosva dzepabonde vanogona kuviga mushure mekunyorwa kwepabonde nekudzivisa uye kutora kutora zvavanoita. Aya maitiro anoonekwa seasina mhosva, uye pfungwa yokuti kuita zvepabonde kuwedzerwa hupombwe kunokurudzira tsitsi uye kunzwira tsitsi kune vanhu vasingakodzeri kunzwira tsitsi hakunawo chikonzero.
Pakupedzisira, pane kukakavadzana kwakasimbiswa pamitemo yese yekuita zvepabonde - izvo zvinodhaka ndezvekuchengetwa kwemakemikari, uye zvisinei kuti zvakafanana sei maitiro ehutsika, zvinodhakwa zvinowanzoitika maererano nekurwisa zvinhu uye kwete maitiro.
Kwainoenda
Kuita zvepabonde kusagadzikana, kana kuti kunyanyisa kuita zvepabonde, kunowanikwa pachena mune zvenhau uye mune tsika yakakurumbira. Kukura kweInternet kunotungamirira kusingazivikanwi kwekutsvaga kwe " cybersex inodhaka ," iyo inosanganisira zvose zvinodhaka zvekuona zvinonyadzisira uye kusagadzikana kwekutengesa zvepabonde nevekubatana navo, kusanganisira vanobata zvepabonde. Kunyange zvakadaro, nharaunda yezvepfungwa yakave ichizeza kubvuma zvepabonde zvakanyanya, mukati uye pachayo, sechirwere.
Muna 1987, Sangano rekufambira mberi kwehutano hwepabonde (SASH) rakagadzirwa kupa kupa-ku-kutsvakurudza kunhengo dzemhizha dzinoshanda nemishonga yekuita zvepabonde, uye kuvanhu. Vanoparidza bhuku reHIVual Addiction uye Compulsivity: The Journal of Treatment and Prevention, uye vanoita musangano gore negore kuti vaparidze zvitsvakurudzo zvekutsvaga nezvekuita zvepabonde.
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