Ini ndiri nemakore makumi maviri nemasere akaonekwa kuti ndine borderline person disorder (BPD) pandakanga ndava nemakore 19. Ndinofunga kuti BPD yangu yakabatana nekuti ndaiva nehuduku hwakaoma. Pasina kupinda muchidimbu, baba vangu vakanga vasati varipo, uye amai vangu vakanga vasiri ivo amai chaivo.
Dambudziko rangu guru ikozvino nderokuti handigoni kuratidzika kuchengetedza ukama. Munhu wese anondisiya. Handigoni kuchengeta mukomana kwemwedzi inopfuura, uye kunyange shamwari dzangu dzinondisiya ini mushure mechinguva.
Nguva ipi neipi yehukama hwangu huripo, ndinonzwa kutyisa, kusina chinhu, uye kushushikana. Ndiri kuita zvose zvandinogona kuti ndiedze kuvawana zvakare, asi hazvibviri kushanda. Sei vanhu vasingagoni kunge vakanaka kwandiri uye vanonamatira?
Kurongeka Kwemunhu Kunetseka Kunobatanidza Ukama Kurwisana
Kurwisana nehukama huri kurondedzera hwakajairika kune vanhu vane borderline person disorder (BPD) . Chiratidzo chinokosha cheBPD ndechokutya kuregererwa. Ichi chiratidzo chingakonzera kuti iwe unoda kugara uchivimbiswa kuti kusiyiwa hakusi pedyo, kuenda kune hurefu hwakakura kuedza kudzivisa kuregererwa uye kunzwa uchinetseka kana mumwe munhu apedza ukama newe.
Asi iwe uri kutsanangurawo chimwe chiitiko chinowanikwa muBPD. Vanhu vane BPD vanowanzova nehukama husina kugadzikana, hukama hwakashata kupfuura vamwe, uye hukama uhwu hunopera nguva isati yasvika nekuda kwekupesana.
Kukonana Kunogona Kutungamirira Kusunungurwa
Munzira dzakawanda, iviri-whammy.
Vanhu vane BPD vose vanotya kuregererwa uye vane zviratidzo zvinokonzera kukakavamwe nevamwe uye kazhinji zvinotungamirira mukusiyiwa, izvo zvino zvinosimbisa kutya. Mukuwedzera, vanhu vane BPD vanogona kunyanya kufanana nezvakaitika pakusiyiwa. Nokudaro, kunyange zvazvo zvinorwadza kuti munhu wose ave nekuguma kwehukama, kuguma kweukama kunogona kunzwa kunoparadza zvikuru vanhu vane BPD.
Nzira Dzokurega Dambudziko Risiri Rakanaka Rokukakavadzana uye Kubviswa
Mashoko akanaka ndeokuti pane zvinhu zvaunogona kuita kuti uedze kumira izvi. Semuenzaniso, munhararectical behavior therapy (DBT) sangano rehutano hunoti "unyanzvi hwehutano" hunodzidziswa. Unyanzvi uhwu hunogona kukubatsira kuti udzidze kuva anoshanda muhukama, izvo zvinogona kuita kuti ukama huno huve hwakasimba uye huchawedzerwa. Kana iwe usiri kuwana DBT ikozvino, izvi zvingava chimwe chinhu chekutaura nemurapi wako pamusoro.
Chirongwa chechirongwa chakakosha zvakare chinogona kubatsira pakuziva uye nekushingaira nzira dzekufunga dzinokonzera zvinokonzera nharo muupenyu hwako. Inogona kukubatsira kuti uone zvaunoda zvaunenge uchiedza kuita kuti vamwe vasangane nenzira isina kunaka uye kuwana nzira dzakanaka dzekuwana izvo zvido zvinosangana panzvimbo.
Mukuwedzera, inogona kubatsira kutsvaga midzi yenhau dzekuregererwa nemushandi wako. Zvinonzwika sokuti iwe wakanga uine zvimwe zviitiko muhuduku hwako huchaita kuti zvinonzwisisika kukusiya uchitya vanhu vachikusiya. Kutaura nezvekuti zviitiko izvi zvekare zvakakanganisa nzira dzako dzemazuva ano dzekutarisa nekubatana nenyika inogona kubatsira.
Nokurapa, kushanda nesimba uye nguva, zvinokwanisika kuva nehukama hukama hwakanyanya uye dzidza kuzviona iwe pachako uye nevamwe mune imwe nzira ine utano uye yechokwadi.
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