Kurwisana kwepakati pehutano hwevanhu (BPD) hukama hunowanzotambudza, hukuru, uye hukakavhiringidzika, uye izvi zvinogona kunyanya kuitika kune hukama hwepabonde hweBPD.
Kana uri kufunga nezvekutanga ukama nemumwe munhu ane BPD, kana uri mune imwe ikozvino, unofanirwa kuzvidzidzisa nezvechirwere uye chii chaunotarisira. Saizvozvowo, kana wakamboonekwa kuti une BPD, zvinogona kubatsira kukufunga nezvekuti zviratidzo zvako zvakakanganisa sei ukama hwako hwepano.
Zvinogadzirisa Zviratidzo
Mune Diagnostic and Statistical Manual ye Mental Disorders (DSM-5) , vadzidzisi vehutano hwemagariro ehutano vanotaura pavanenge vachiongorora, zviratidzo zveBPD zvinosanganisira "hukama hwakasimba, husina tsvimbo, uye hwakapesana."
Mukati, vanhu vane BPD vanowanzotya kuti vamwe vachavasiya. Kunyange zvakadaro, vanogonawo kuchinja kamwe pakarepo kunzwa vachinetseka uye vanotya kushamwaridzana, izvo zvinoita kuti varege kubatana. Mugumisiro unogara uchidzoka-uye-kunze pakati pezvaunoda kuti ude rudo kana kutarisirwa uye kubviswa kamwe kamwe kana kuti kusurukirwa.
Chimwe chiratidzo cheBPD chinonyanya kukanganisa ukama hunonzi kushevedzwa kwehukama. Izvi zvinogona kutungamirira avo vane BPD kuti varambe vachitsvaga zviratidzo izvo mumwe munhu angavarega uye kuti adudzire kunyange chiitiko chiduku sechiratidzo chokuti kurasikirwa kwava pedyo. Iyo manzwiro angangoguma nekuedza kushingaira kwekudzivisa kuregererwa, zvakadai sekukumbira, zviitiko zvevanhu, uye kunyange kudzivirira mumuviri kuti mumwe munhu arega kubva.
Chimwe kunyunyuta kunowanzoitwa nevanodiwa muhukama hwemiganhu inoreva nhema. Apo ureve nhema uye unyengeri hausi chikamu chechimiro chechimiro chekuongorora chirongwa cheBPD, vazhinji vanodiwa vanoti kunyengera ndeimwe yezvinetso zvavo chikuru; izvi zvinogona kuva nokuti BPD inokonzera vanhu kuona zvinhu zvakasiyana zvikuru kune vamwe.
Kuita zvepabonde zvepabonde chimwe chiratidzo chekare cheBPD, uye vanhu vazhinji vane BPD vanorwisana nehutano hwepabonde. Uyewo, ruzhinji rwevanhu vane BPD vane hutano hwekusangana pabonde , izvo zvinogona kuita zvepabonde zvakaoma.
Pakupedzisira, zvimwe zviratidzo zveBPD, kusanganisira kusava nehanya , kuzvikuvadza , uye zviratidzo zvekuvhiringidza , izvo zvinogona kunge zvisina kukanganisa hukama hwemhirizhonga.
Semuenzaniso, kana mudiwa ane BPD ari kuita maitiro asina kufungidzira sekuenderera mberi achishandisa zvinyorwa, zvinogona kukonzera kushungurudzika kukuru mumhuri. Mukuwedzera, zviratidzo zvekuzviuraya zvinogona kuva zvinotyisa kune vakaroorana naye uye zvinogona kutaurira zvakawanda zvekunetseka muhukama.
Zvakaita Ongororo
Iwe unogona kushamisika kuziva kuti tsvakurudzo yesayenzi yakasimbisa kuti vanhu vane BPD vanofarira kuva nehukama hune hukama hwakanaka hunoonekwa nehuwandu hwemhirizhonga uye kusagadzikana. Somuenzaniso, kumwe kutsvakurudza kwakaratidza kuti vakadzi vane zviratidzo zveBPD vakaratidza hukama hwekusagadzikana hune hukama uye dzimwe nguva kukakavadzana. Uyewo, kunyanya kunetseka kweBPD zviratidzo ndezvishoma kugutsikana kwemudiwa wavo.
Mukuwedzera, tsvakurudzo yakaratidza zvakare kuti zviratidzo zveBPD zvinosanganiswa nehuwandu hwehukama hwepakati pane nguva, uye kuwedzera kwekuzvitakura zvisina kurongwa kuvakadzi.
Vanhu vane BPD vanowanzova nevevamwe vaimbobatana navo uye vanowanzogumisa ukama hwakawanda mumasangano avo evanhu kunze kwevanhu vasina kusagadzikana kweunhu . Izvi zvinoratidza kuti hukama hwepabonde nevanhu vane BPD hunowanzoguma pakupopotedzana.
Pakupedzisira, maererano nehupombwe, tsvakurudzo yakaratidza kuti vakadzi vane BPD vane mafungiro asina kunaka pamusoro pepabonde, vanowanzonzwa vachimanikidzirwa kuita zvepabonde nemumwe wavo, uye vanonyanya kutaura nezvepabonde kupfuura vakadzi vasina BPD. Zvinosuruvarisa, hapana tsvakurudzo yakaitwa pane zvepabonde mune varume vane BPD.
Kutanga Kuda Kuratidzana
Zvichipa matambudziko ose aripo muhukama hweBPD, nei mumwe munhu angatanga ukama nemunhu ane chirwere?
Kutanga, zvakakosha kuyeuka kuti pasinei nezviratidzo zvakasimba uye zvinokanganisa, vanhu vane BPD vanowanzova vakanaka, vane mutsa, uye vane hanya. Kazhinji vane hune huno hwakanaka hunoita kuti vaite zvekuda zvikuru dzimwe nguva.
Uyezve, vanhu vazhinji vakambova noukama hwepedyo nemumwe munhu ane BPD vachitaura pamusoro pokuti kufara, kufadza, uye kuda BPD shamwari inogona kuva. Vanhu vazhinji vanoswededzwa kune BPD pamwe chete nokuti vanhu vane BPD vane manzwiro makuru uye chido chakasimba cheukama hwepedyo.
Unogona Kuita Rudo rweBPD Ukama Hwekupedzisira?
Nzira dzakawanda dzehukama hweBPD dzinopinda munguva yeuchi. Vanhu vane BPD vanowanzotaura kuti pakutanga kwehukama hutsva hunoisa shamwari yavo itsva "pachitsika" uye dzimwe nguva vanofunga kuti vakawana mukana wavo wakakwana, mweya wemunhu uyo achavanunura kubva pakurwadziwa kwavo mupfungwa. Rudzi urwu rwekufunga runotumidzwa kuti " idealization ."
Iyi nguva yenguva inofadza inogona kuva inofadza zvikuru kune waunofambidzana naye zvakare. Mushure mezvose, zvakanaka chaizvo kuti mumwe munhu anzwe akasimba zvakasimba pamusoro pako uye anzwe sokunge iwe unoda.
Matambudziko anotanga kubuda, zvisinei, kana chokwadi chiripo. Kana munhu ane BPD achiziva kuti mudzimai wake mutsva haasi asina mhosva, chifananidzo ichocho chakakwana (idealized) soul mate chinogona kuparara. Nokuti vanhu vane BPD vanorwisana nekufungisisa , kana kuona zvinhu chete mumuchena nemachena, vanogona kuva nekutambudza kuziva kuti vanhu vazhinji vanokanganisa kunyange kana vachireva zvakanaka. Somugumisiro, vanogona kukurumidza kubva kubva pakufungidzira kusvika pakugadzirisa (kana kufunga kuti mudiwa wavo munhu anotyisa).
Chinokosha chekuchengetedza ukama nemumwe munhu ane BPD ndechokuwana nzira dzekutarisana nemitambo iyi uye kukurudzira BPD yako shamwari kuti uwane rubatsiro rwehupenzi kuti uderedze maitiro aya. Dzimwe nguva vanobatanidzwa muhukama hweBPD vanobatsirwa nehutano hwechikwata .
Kutarisira Kuwirirana Kwadanana
Mukuwedzera kune vakaroorana vanorapwa, kune munhu ane BPD, kune mishonga inoratidzwa kuti inoshanda kuburikidza nekubatsira nehukama:
Dialectal behavior therapy (DBT)
DBT inoratidziro rwekufunga kwehutano hwehutano hunoenderana nemafungiro evanhu kune maitiro avo. Kune humwe hutano hukuru hunodzidziswa muDBT , uye mumwe wavo ari kutarisira unyanzvi hwevanhu.
Mentalization therapy (MBT)
MBT irapi iyo inosanganisira kuongorora manzwiro ako epanguva uye woona kuti yakabatanidzwa sei nemafambiro ako kana zviito.
Mishonga
Parizvino hapana mishonga inogamuchirwa kutarisa BPD , asi dzimwe nguva inorayirwa navanachiremba kuti vabatsire kuvandudza ukama hwavo. Kutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuti mamwe mishonga inogona kubatsira munhu kugadzirisa kutsamwa kwavo, kusagadzikana, uye kuora mwoyo. Pamusoro pechinyorwa ichi, zvakadaro, zvakakosha kuongorora zvakanyatsova nemigumisiro yemishonga inogona kubatsira.
Kurambana Kukurukurirana Kwepakati
Nyaya dzakawanda dzinogona kubuda apo ukama hweBPD hwapera. Nokuti vanhu vane BPD vane kutya kukuru kwekuregererwa, kuparadzana kunogona kuvasiya vachinzwa zvachose zvakashata uye zvakaparadzwa. Kunyange kana ukama husina kunaka, munhu ane BPD anowanzotambura kutendera hukama uende. Izvi zvinonyanya kuitika pamusoro penguva refu yekubatana kana kuroorana.
Ichi ndicho chikonzero chakanaka kuva nerutsigiro rwekuchengetera iwe uye shamwari, kunyanya kana kuputsa-bvira kuchiitika, uye ruvazheni urwu runowanzobatanidza unyanzvi hwehutano hwepfungwa uye / kana mushonga.
Shoko Rinobva
Pamusoro pechinyorwa chakanaka uye chekupedzisira, tapota yeuka kuti kufungidzira kweBPD kwakanaka. Izvi zvinoreva kuti kunyange zvazvo vanhu vazhinji vane BPD vanoona zviratidzo zvisara kunyange mushure menguva uye kurapwa, munguva refu pane tariro yokuti ukama hwenyu nemunoda wenyu hunogona kushanda.
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