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Handimbofi ndakakanganwa zuva randakaona kuti kugadzirisa mafungiro ehutano hunoshanda chaizvo uye ndinogona kuchinja manzwiro angu nekungochinja pfungwa dzangu. Yakashandura hupenyu hwangu nokusingaperi.
Ndakanga ndiri kuverenga bhuku rainzi Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy naDkt. David D. Burns, asi ndakanga ndisina kuisa chero ipi zvayo maitiro. Kunyangwe zvainzwika zvinonakidza, ndakanga ndisingatendi kuti zvaizoshanda.
Hazviiti here kuti zvive zvakanzwisisika kuti kuora mwoyo kwaiva kukonzera pfungwa dzakaipa uye kwete imwe nzira iyo yakapoteredza? Uyewo, kana pfungwa dzangu dzichikonzera manzwiro, izvi zvinoreva kuti ndaive ndichiita izvi kwandiri uye pfungwa iyoyo haina kugara neni.
Zvakanaka, musi uyu chaiwo ndakanga ndaita zvirongwa zvekuti ini nemurume wangu tishambidze uye tichenese motokari yedu patakasvika kumba kwevabereki vake. Apo patakasvika ipapo, ndakaenda kushanda kuunganidza pamwe chete midziyo yedu. Maminetsi mashomanana oga, ndinomupa chiyeuchidzo chokuti zvinhu zvakanga zvakagadzirira saka ngatitangei, asi akaramba achidzikama. Angave akabvumirana munyanzvi yekugeza yemotokari, asi ndaigona kuona kuti akanga asingadi chaizvo uye ndakanga ndichiwedzera kutsamwa uye ndakatsamwiswa neminiti. Ndakaramba ndichifunga zvinhu zvakadai sekuti: "Anoita izvi nguva dzose." Anofanira kunge ari pano ari kundibatsira, asi ari kunonoka uye achinditendera kuti ndiite basa. "Ari kundigumbusa." Ipapo bhiribhu yakananga. Manzwiro angu akanga aenda kubva pane zvakanaka kusvikira kune zvakaipa mumamiriro emaminitsi nekuda kwezvandaifunga nezvemamiriro acho ezvinhu.
Ndakasarudza panguva iyoyo kuti ndaizoedza zvimwe zvandaidzidza mubhuku raDkt. Burn. Yaiva mukana wakakwana wokuona kana wakashanda chaizvo.
Sezvo ini ndakatanga kuongorora zvakare pfungwa dzangu uye kuvashandura kuva mazano akawanda uye akanaka, chitima changu chepfungwa chakatanga kufamba sezvizvi: "Haana kuita izvi nguva dzose.
Akanyatsonaka zvikuru kundibatsira kunze kunze kwekuti ane chimwe chinhu mupfungwa dzake. Akangotungamidza nzira yakareba kuti aende pano uye zvino iye anofara nekuona mhuri yake. Zvechokwadi, haazodi kuchenesa motokari pakarepo. Anofanirwa kuwana mukana wokuzorora nekushanyira nemhuri yake. Kunze kwekuti hapana munhu anogona kukugumbura asi iwe pachako uye ini ndichaenda kusasagadzikana. "Pasina nguva ndakange ndichitsvaira uye ndichifarira kunaka kwezuva .. Chii chakashamisa ini ndechokuziva kuti ini zvino ndainzwa kumusoro kwenyika , zvose nokuti ndakanga ndashandura zvandaifunga, munguva yakapfuura, ndingadai ndakapinda mumafungiro angu uye ndakanga ndava kushungurudzika zuva rose. Kutora mhinduro yemanzwiro andakaita kwakaita kuti ndinzwe zviri nani.
Unogona Kuziva Maitiro Okuita Maitiro Anoshanda kwauri here? Vamwe vachada mishonga pamwe nekurapa ; asi, ndinotenda zvinogona kubatsira kune ani zvake, kunze kwekunge vauya nazvo nechido chokutenda chinogona kushanda. Kana iwe uchinzwa utyisidzirwa nepfungwa yokuti iwe uri kuwedzera kune iwe pachako kuora mwoyo, unogona kuguma uchizviparadzanisa iwe pachako.
Kana uchida kudzidza zvakawanda nezveCognitive Behavioral Therapy, tarisa nyaya ino inokurukura mafungiro ekusafunga kwekuti tinowira mhuka uye tinopa mazano ekukundisa.