Kutarisana Nokusurukirwa Munguva Yezororo
Nguva yezororo kazhinji inofungidzirwa seyo nguva yemufaro nerudo, asi kune vanhu vazhinji kwazvo, inguva yekusurukirwa. Vamwe vanhu vanogara kure nemhuri uye havaoni vadiwa vavo nguva ino yegore; vamwe vanotya kuenda kumapati ezororo uye kupembera kweNyika Idzva Idzva musina mumwe uye kuguma kugara mumba. Zvinowanzonziwo kuti vanhu vanzwe manzwiro emanzwiro kubva kuvanhu vavari, saka vachinzwa vakasurukirwa kunyange kana vari muimba yakazara nevanhu.
Kune avo vanonzwa vakasurukirwa panguva dzezororo, nguva ino yegore inogona kunge iri nguva yekuwedzera dambudziko. Kana uri kusurukirwa kunokonzera kushungurudzika munguva yezororo - kana panguva dzezororo dzinowira pane dzimwe nguva dzegore, kufanana neZuva raValentine kana kunyange Zuva Rokuzvimirira, mazano anotevera anogona kubatsira.
Iva Wakanaka Kwawe
Kunyange zvazvo izvi zvisingagoni kubvisa zvachose manzwiro okusurukirwa, kuzvichengeta iwe pachako kunogona kukubatsira kuti uchinzwe zviri nani uye unakidzwe newe oga. Pasinei nokuti iwe unotora hove yakasununguka uye uzvipe mafuta ekurapa, kuvhara nebhuku rakanaka, unakidzwe nekunakidzwa , kana kudzidza chimwe chinhu chitsva , kutora nguva kuita zvinhu zvichaita kuti iwe uwedzere kukoshesa kana kuti kukupa mukana wakanaka wekunakidza kwete kungotora pfungwa yako kubva pakufunga uri woga, asi inogona kukusimudzira zvakare.
Ziva Kuti Hausi Wose
Apo iwe unogona kunge uchinzwa uri woga muupenyu hwako iye zvino, uchiziva kuti mazororo anogona kuva nguva isina vanhu vakawanda vanogona kukubatsira kuti unzwe usina kudaro.
(Zvechokwadi, mumusarudzo panzvimbo ino, vanopfuura hafu yevakapindura vakati "kazhinji" vanonzwa kusurukirwa pamusoro pezororo, uye ivo vashomanana chete vanoti "havana kumboita"!) Vanhu vazhinji vanoda kuti vangava nemhuri, asi vanogona 't; vamwe vanochema ukama nemhuri zvavanoda kuti vave nazvo, kuti vanoona vamwe vachifadzwa munguva yezororo.
Saizvozvowo, vanhu vazhinji vanoshuvira kushamwaridzana kwepedyo neshamwari, kana vanoda kuti vatsigire ukama hune rudo, uye vanozviwana vachinzwa vari voga mukati mezororo. Kunyange zvazvo zvingave zvisina kunetseka kuti uwedzere kusurukirwa, zvakanaka zvakare kunzwa saizvozvo. Kutaura kune vamwe vanogona kugovana manzwiro enyu (zvichibva paIndaneti kana muhupenyu hwechokwadi) zvinogona kukubatsira kuti unzwe wakasurukirwa mumamiriro ako ezvinhu.
Rethink Zvaunotarisira
Chikamu chekuti nei mazororo achiwedzerwa kusurukirwa kwevanhu vazhinji ndeyokuti sangano redu rinotarisira zvakanyanya panguva ino yegore. Kusavapo kwomurume wepamudiwa kana mhuri yepedyo kazhinji hazviiti sekunakidza kupfuura panguva iyi inofanirwa kutarisirwa kwepabonde apo isu tose tinofanirwa kuenda kumapoka uye kuchinjana zvipo uye kufara nekudanana nevanoda. Imwe nzira yekugadzirisa manzwiro okusurukirwa ndeyekufunga zvakare zvaunotarisira. Ziva kuti mararamiro evanhu vashomanana anonyatsoenderana ne "mafirimu emitambo" yehupenyu hwakakwana, uye shandura pfungwa dzako kune zvinhu zvikuru zvaunenge uine muupenyu hwako. (Nhepfenyuro dzezvemagariro evanhu dzinogona kuumba zvakanyanya kudzvinyirira munharaunda iyi; heino mamiriro ekuita nayo .) Kuziva kuti zvakakosha kutora shamwari yakanaka (pane 'zuva rakakwana') kune imwe nguva yezororo, kana kuti rudo rwakashata rwe Nhengo yemhuri yakaoma ichiri kukoshesa se rudo, yakabatsira vanhu vakawanda kunzwa vakasurukirwa.
Taurirana
Sezvambotaurwa, zvinoita kuti uchinzwe wakasurukirwa kana ukakombwa nevanhu, asi zvakaoma kuti uwedzere kusurukirwa paunenge uchisvika kwavari. Pasinei nokuti uri kutaura kuti kune shamwari kune vavakidzani iwe kazhinji unomhanyira kubvuma, kugovana mazwi ane ushamwari nevanhu vari pahofisi, kana kutora foni uye kushedza shamwari yekare yausina kutaura naye kwekanguva, kusvika kuvanhu uye kusimbisa zvisungo zvinogona kukubatsira iwe kunzwa uine hukama hwakanyanya uye usurukirwa. Iyi inogona kuva nguva yekuudza vanhu pamusoro pehupenyu hwemagariro ezvo mitemo yaunowanzo "kungofanana," uye kubata shamwari dzekare.
Ichi chinyorwa chinowedzera pamusoro pekuungana nevanhu uye nekugadzira denderedzwa yevamwe shamwari .
Ita Kuti Uonge
Pane zvakawanda zvinobatsira zvikuru pakuonga . Chimwe chakareruka kupesana nemanzwiro ekushayikwa ndekukudziridza manzwiro okuonga pamusoro pezvawave uine; zvakaoma kuisa pfungwa pazvose panguva imwe chete. Kana iwe uchinzwa kusava nerudo muhupenyu hwako, ita nesimba rakajeka kuisa pfungwa pane rudo rwaunayo - kubva kune shamwari, mhuri, vavakidzani, uye kunyange mhuka dzemhuka. Iwe unogonawo kuisa pfungwa pane zvinhu zvaunonyanya kukoshesa muupenyu hwako, sebasa rako, zvinokuvaraidza zvaunazvo, kana kunyange zvaunokwanisa. Kuchengetedza bhuku rekuonga kunogona kuva basa rakanaka mukukudziridza mafungiro okuonga, uye inogona kukusiya nekanyorwa chakanyorwa chezvinhu zvose zvaunofanirwa kuzvikoshesa muupenyu hwako, kuti uverenge paunenge uchinzwa pasi.
Ipa Vamwe
Imwe nzira inonyanya kukosha yekufunga kusurukirwa panguva dzezororo ndeyokupa nguva yako kune chikonzero iwe unotenda mazviri . Kubatsira vamwe vasina ruzivo kupfuura iwe unogona kukuzadza nemanzwiro e rudo nekudada, kukuyeuchidza zvose zvaunofanira kuonga nokuti, uye kunyange kukubatanidza nevamwe vane mugove wenyu. Iwe uchava chikamu chechimwe chikuru kune iwe, uye iwe uchange uchizvienzanisa mumweya wechokwadi wegore rezororo.
Ongorora Manzwiro Ako
Uyu angasaita kuti uchinzwe zviri nani pakarepo, asi kana iwe uchinzwa wakasurukirwa kwenguva yakawanda, izvi zvingava chirevo chekuti dzimwe shanduko ndeyekuti gore rinouya. Iwe unogona kuongorora kuti chii chinokonzera manzwiro ako okusurukirwa, zvichida iwe pachako kana nekubatsira kwechiremba. Iwe ungabatsirwa nekuisa nguva yakawanda muupenyu hwako hwemagariro kuitira kuti uve nehukama hukama? Pane chimwe chinhu mukati mako chinokuita kuti uchengete vanhu vari kure? Kana iwe uchida kusimbisa ushamwari hwako, hunogona kutora nguva shomanana uye simba, asi kubhadhara kuri kuwedzera kutsigirwa uye manzwiro ekunzwiwa uye kunzwisiswa. Kuita nguva yevamwe shamwari, kunyatsoteerera kana shamwari dzako dzichitaura, uye kuvapo kune avo inzira dzose dzekuvaka ushamwari hunotsigira. Nyaya ino ine zvakawanda pamusoro pokuti ungaita sei kuti ushamwari hwako hutsigire . Kana iwe uchinzwa uremerwa nemanzwiro okusurukirwa kana kuti uzvinzwe gore rose uye ukawana zvakaoma kubata nazvo, iwe unogonawo kutaura kune unyanzvi pamusoro pekunzwa kwako; izvi zvinogona kugara zvichibatsira kupfuura vanhu vanotarisira.