Kana iwe uine borderline personality disorder (BPD) , zvakajairika kuti unzwe sokuda kwaunoda kusiya chirwere. Zvechokwadi, zvakajeka kuti uwedzere kugadziriswa nerapi kana mushandi wako kana kunzwa sokuti psychotherapy haina kushanda zvakare. Asi vanhu vazhinji vanosiya kurapwa vasati vawana vavariro dzavo-tsvakurudzo inoratidza kuti inenge 47 muzana yevanhu vane BPD vanosiya kurapwa nguva pfupi.
Kurega chirwere chisarudzo chakakura, saka funga nezvikonzero zvako uye zvinangwa zvekurapa.
Ndezvipi Zvikonzero Zvokurega Utano?
Usati warega kurapa, funga nezvezvikonzero zvako zvekuda kuenda; iwe ungaona zvichibatsira kunyora runyora. Zvinowanzokonzera zvinosanganisira:
- Handisi kunzwa sokuti chirwere chinoshanda
- Handidi mutapi wangu
- Handina nguva yokupinda zvidzidzo
- Ndinofunga kuti ndave nani uye ndakagadzirira kuenda ndoga
- Zvinhu zvatinotaura pamusoro penyaya zvakanyanya kufungidzira / zvakanyanya
- Handifungi kuti chiremba wangu anondida
- Handichazombofambi pasinei nokuti ndinoitei
- Ndinotenda kuti chiremba wangu haana kukwana
- Handina mari yakakwana yekubhadhara zvikamu
Kutaura neMushonga Wako
Iye zvino kuti une mhinduro yezvikonzero zvako zvekuda kurega kurapa, isa nyota pedyo nezvikonzero zvikuru kuitira kuti iwe ugone kukurukura navo nemushandi wako.
Zvichida iwe unonyara kukurukura nekuderera nemutapi wako nokuti haudi kukuvhiringidza kana kumugumbura.
Kana kuti zvimwe iwe hauna kumuvimba iye zvakakwana kuti ukurukure naye. Chero zvaunofunga, kutarisa kunetseka kwako pamusoro perapi neanopa mazano kungabatsira.
Somuenzaniso, kana iwe uchida kurega nekuda kwemari kana nekuda kwepurogiramu yako, mushonga wako angangodaro agadzirisa chirongwa chokubhadhara kana kubvumirana kukusangana newe mushure mekushanda kwemahofisi ake makuru.
Anogona kukupa zvakare kutumira kune mumwe mushonga kana iwe uchinzwa sokuti hausi kubatanidza naye kana kuita zvakakwana kufambira mberi.
Usatya kutanga hurukuro iyi. Hazvigoneki kuti mushandi wako haana kumbobvunzurudza zvakadai seizvi zvisati zvaitika. Kurapa kunounza manzwiro mazhinji, uye zvakajairika kuti vanhu vade kurega kana kunzwa kuti hapana chichabatsira chaizvo. Iva akavimbika sezvaunogona kuva. Ramba uchifunga kuti mushonga wako anoita zvaanoita nokuti anoda kubatsira vanhu.
Ndicho chirwere chinotaura here?
Mune zvimwe zviitiko, zviratidzo zveBPD zvinogona kukukurudzira kuti usiye chirwere. Kana iwe uchiona kuparadzaniswa , unogona kuona mushonga wako achifungira kana asingadi izvo zvinogona kuita kuti iwe urege kubuda muchipatara kare kare. Vanhu vane kuora mwoyo sechikamu cheBPD vanogona kunge vane nguva dzisina tariro uye zvakanyanya kudzvinyirira, izvo zvinogona kuita kuti vade kuregera kurapwa zvakare. Muzviitiko zvose izvi, mutapi anogona kukubatsira kuti ufunge pamusoro pezvaunonyanya kufarira kana kuti chii chinonzi chirwere chako "kukuudza" kuti uite.
Chii Chinobatsira uye Chinonyangadza?
Imwe nzira inogona kukubatsira kuti uone kana kurasikirwa kwechirwere kunonzi " Pros uye Cons Tool ". Ichi ndicho chidziro chinodzidziswa muDialectical Behavior Therapy uye inogona kunge iri nzira yakanakisisa yokufunga kuburikidza nemhando dzakasiyana siyana dzezvisarudzo.
Kana ukangopedzisa purogiramu yekubatsira uye yekushandisa, funga zvakanyanya nezvemazano aunoda kupinda nawo. Kubvisa chirwere chinoratidzika sechinhu chakanaka here? Kana, zviri kuve zvakajeka here kuti imwe nzira inogona kuve yakanzwisisika? Kana kusiya chiremba kuchiri kutaridzika sechisarudzo chakanaka, izvi zvinoreva kurega kurapwa kwakakwana, kana kungochinja mashandisi kana rudzi rwechiremba wauri kuwana? Funga kuburikidza nezvose zvaunogona kuita kuti uite chisarudzo chakanaka kwauri.
The Bottom Line
Chinonyanya kukosha ndechekuti kune zvikonzero zvizhinji zvekuti vanhu vanodedzwa kunze kwechirwere uye dzimwe nguva izvi hazvidziviriki. Asi dzimwe nguva vanhu vanosiyiwa kunze kwechiremba vasati vambofunga pasina kuburikidza uye vachitaura nevanorwara mavo pamusoro pazvo.
Kana iwe uine chokwadi chokuti iwe unoda kurasa, funga dzimwe nzira dzokurapa . Uye, pasinei nokuti unosarudza kuramba uchishanda nemumwe mushandi kana kwete, ramba uchishanda paunyanzvi hwako hwekutarisana ne borderline person disorder .
Pakupedzisira, usati waenda kurapwa, iva nechokwadi chokuti une chirongwa chekuchengeteka kweBPD panzvimbo.
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