Kutsanangura kuora mwoyo nekukurukurirana maitiro ekurapwa kubatsira
Paunenge uchitaura nemwana wako pamusoro pekuora mwoyo , iwe unoda kuongorora kwaanove achikura uye izvo zvino zvichikosha kwaari.
Mwana akwegura kana mwana wechidiki anotanga kutama kubva kumhuri yake uye kuziva nevezera rake. Ari kuedza kumutsvaga uye kushanda kuti aise rusununguko kubva kuvabereki vake. Saka, kana uchitaura nezvekuora mwoyo, iwe unoda kugadzirisa zvinhu izvi.
Imwe tsvakurudzo yakaratidza kuti vana vevabereki vanoita basa rakaoma mukurapa kwemwana wavo vanowanzoenderana nemishonga , izvo zvinowedzera mukana wekuregererwa .
Kutsanangura Kuora Mwoyo Kumwana Wako Ari Kuyaruka
Kufananidza kuora mwoyo kune imwe chirwere chekurapa iyo mwana wako akajairika kunogona kumubvumira kuti anzwisise kuora mwoyo sechirwere, zviratidzo zvake , kukosha kwehutano uye kudzivisa kunzwa asingasviki. Vana vakwegura nevechiri kuyaruka vanonyanya kufunga nezvekunzwa kwakasiyana kana kuti kwete munzvimbo.
- Kune Muenzaniso: "Kuora mwoyo ndechimwe chirwere chinorwara chinonzi chirwere chepfungwa.Iye yakafanana nedzimwe zvirwere zvakadai sefivha nenzira iyo inogona kukuita kuti unzwe wakaneta kana une musoro." Kuora mwoyo kunokanganisa mafungiro ako uye manzwiro. zvinokuita kuti unzwe wakashungurudzika, wakasurukirwa, wakagumbuka, wakatsamwa kana kutya. Ndeipi mibvunzo yaunayo nezvekuora mwoyo? "
Kutaura Nezvekurapa Nemwana Wako Ari Kuyaruka
Mwana wako ari kuyaruka anonyatsoteerera kurapwa kana akanzwisisa kuti chii, anoziva zvaunotarisira uye anogona kuva nekutaura mazviri.
Ichokwadi kuti haisi nguva dzose kubvumira mwana wako kuronga kurapwa kwake, asi kana iwe ukakwanisa kumubvumira kunyange kutora chisarudzo chiduku (sekumugadzirisa kusangana kwake), zvinogona kuita kusiyana kukuru mukumuita kuti anzwe mukutonga.
- Muenzaniso: "Iwe unoda kutora mishonga zuva rega uye enda kuchipatara kamwechete pavhiki kuitira kuti uchinzwe zviri nani." Murapa, iwe uchataura naChristin Smith pachivande pamusoro pemanzwiro ako nemabasa, uye kubvunza mibvunzo. vane zvimwe zvinokonzerwa nemishonga, sekunzwa wakaneta zvakanyanya kana kuti kuneta, asi kunofanirwa kuenda nokukurumidza.Ndicho chikonzero iwe uchaona chiremba kamwe chete mwedzi.Achakubvunza kuti mushonga wacho uri kuita kuti unzwe sei uye uchaita kuti iko kukubatsira iwe. Unofungei nezverongwa urwu hwekurapa kusvika zvino? "
Kukurudzira Ukama Hutsigiro
Kunyange zvazvo vana vakwegura vanoziva zvakawanda nevezera ravo, kuora mwoyo kunogona kukonzera mwana kubvisa kubva kune wese. Kuva nehukama hunotsigira hunokosha kune wese munhu, asi hungave hunonyanya kukosha kune vana vakaora mwoyo vanenge vachinzwa vakasurukirwa kana kuti vari voga . Kuva neshamwari imwechete kana kuti munhu mukuru anotsigira kutaura naye anogona kupa rubatsiro rwakakura kumwana wako. Taura kutsigira kwako uye kuwanika kumwana wako, uye kumudzirudzire kuti ataure kana kuti ayananezve neshamwari uye anoudza manzwiro ake.
- Muenzaniso: "Ndinogara ndiripo kuti ndikutaurire pamusoro pechinhu chipi nechipi.Ungave uchida kufunga pamusoro pekutaura kune vamwe vevamwe shamwari pamusoro pemanzwiro ako.Kana kuva nekutsigira nekukurudzira vanhu kuvimba kunokosha.Kutaura pamusoro pemanzwiro ako kunogona kuita nguva yakaoma zvishoma zvishoma. Ndeupi wevamwari vako unofunga kuti iwe unogona kutaura naye? "
Kutaura Nhema
Vana vakwegura vangave vachiziva nezvekusarura kwehutano hwemagariro evanhu kana kuti vakanzwa vamwe vachiti zvinhu zvinopesana nezvirwere zvepfungwa . Iwe unogona kuda kutarisa izvi nemwana wako kuitira kuti asanzwa sokuti anofanira kuvanza kana kunyara pamusoro pokuderedza kufungidzirwa kwake.
- Kune Muenzaniso: "Iwe unogona kunge wakanzwa vanhu vachiti zvinhu zvinokuvadza kana zvisina kururama pamusoro pevanhu vane chirwere chepfungwa kana kuora mwoyo. Dzimwe nguva, kana vanhu vasingazivi pamusoro pezvinhu, ivo vachati chimwe chinhu chinokuvadza kana kuita mhosho isina kururama.Uye haufaniri kunzwa unonyara kana kufanana iwe unofanirwa kuzvivanza, asi iwe unofanirwa kuita sarudzo yekuudza vamwe nezvekuora mwoyo kana iwe uye paunoda. "
Zvinonyengera kufunga kuti kutaura pamusoro pekuzviuraya kunogona kusima pfungwa mumwana. Kutaura zvazviri, kutaura nyaya yacho kunogona kumubatsira kuziva zvaanofanira kuita kana ane kuzviuraya kana kuzvibata .
Yeuka, zvakadaro, zvakakosha kuti utsvake kurapwa kwekukurumidzira kana mwana wako ari kuzviuraya kana kuzvibata.
- Muenzaniso: "Kana iwe uchinzwa sokuda kwako kuti uzvikuvadze iwe pachako kana kuti iwe usingadi kurarama, ndapota ndiudze, kana kuti kudana chiremba wako pakarepo.Kamwe dzimwe nguva manzwiro anogona kunge ari kukura, uye iwe unonzwa sokuti haungatombovi nani Kuzviuraya ndezvekusingaperi uye manzwiro haasi.Tinogona kukubatsira kuti ushande kuburikidza nemanzwiro ako.Uri ikozvino unenge uine manzwiro ekuda kuzvikuvadza iwe? "
Hazvisi zvakaoma kuti usafunganya nezvekutaura "zvakanaka" chinhu kumwana wako nezvekuora mwoyo kwake - asi kungomurega achiziva kuti unomuda uye unomutsigira iye anotaura zvakawanda.
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