Nhoroondo dzechokwadi Kubva Vana Vachikuvadzwa neVabereki Vokudhakwa
Vana vazhinji vanoona hupenyu hwepakutanga muimba ine nharo imwechete yekudhakwa ine kuoma kuumba hukama hwepedyo. Nemhaka yekutendeseka nyaya uye kusazviremekedza, zvakaoma kuti vatendere mumwe munhu kuti aswedere zvakakwana kuti ave neukama, hwepedyo hwehukama.
Ukama hwepedyo - ive hune rudo, platonic, hwemweya kana hukama hwepedyo hwepedyo - hunogona kuratidzika sekusakundikana kwevana vakuru vane doro.
Vanowana zvakaoma kuzvibvumira kutarisa kune vamwe kuti vataridzane, kushamwaridzana mupfungwa kana kuzadzika kwezvinodiwa zvavo.
Vashanyi kunzvimbo yedu yekudhakwa mukupindura mubvunzo uyu, " Unonzwa Sei Kukura Newe Mubereki Anodhakwa Kwakuchinja? " Kurukura kuoma kwavanoita neukama hwepedyo, chimwe chezvinhu zvakajairika izvo vana vanodhakwa vanogona kukura. Ramba uchifunga kuti zviitiko izvi, kunyange zvazvo zvakajairika muvana vakuru vedhakwa, zvinogona kureva mhedzisiro yemhando dzakasiyana-siyana dzekukura.
Ndinotsvaka Varume Vane Utsinye uye Huru
Ndinotsvaka hukama nevarume vanoita kuti ndinzwe ndisina kukwana, izvo zvinondisiya ndiri ndoga, izvo zvinotyisa uye zvinotonhora. Iye zvino ndiri kusiya murume wandave ndiine anopfuura gore ane OCD uye ndakapedza gore rapera ndichiudza kuti angada kuva oga, kuti ndinotaura zvakawanda, iye akanyengera kwandiri panguva yezororo, akaramba kunditaurira ku shamwari kana mhuri, akaramba kuratidza rudo, akadzora zvose zvatakaita. - Jenna
Ndinoda Kusiya Running
Kutambudzika kwangu kukuru, kurwadziwa, kuziva kuti ndicharasikirwa neshamwari uye shamwari dzandinoda. Ini ndichamhanya pakupedzisira. Ndinozviziva, asi handigoni kumira. Kurasikirwa kunokuvadza zvakadai sekunge vakandidzidzisa kumativi emugwagwa, uye hukama huripo. Ndinonyatsoda kurega kumhanya uye ndichitya-ini handidi chinhu kunze kwemhuri, yakagadzikana yemhuri. - McKluver
Kutya Pakuswedera Pedyo
Yakakonzera zvikuru kumatambudziko andinayo muhukama hwangu, neshamwari dzangu dzose uye kutya kwangu kuva nehukama nevamwe. Ndiri 22 uye ndakanga ndisati ndava neukama hwakasimba nemunhu. Ndinofunga kuti ndinotya kuva pedyo kune mumwe munhu kunze kwekutya kuva neukama hwakafanana nehwavabereki vangu. - Cam
Haana kumbova nehukama hwakanaka
Ndinovenga kuva ndoga uye ndinongoda kuwana munhu akanaka wandinogona kunzwa ndakachengeteka uye ndinovimba, ndine ukama hwakanaka uye zvichida kunyange imba (chimwe chinhu chandisina kumbobvira ndambove nacho). Ndinoshamiswa nemamwe ekugona kukwanisa kubuda ndokubata zvavanoda, kana kunyange kuziva pakutanga uye kukwanisa kutaura zvavanoda. Izvi zvinopfuura ini uye zvinondiita kuti ndinzwe ndisingabatsiri uye ndisinganzwisisiki, ndinonzwa sokuti handina kumbobvira ndapedza chero chinhu apo shamwari dzichienda uye dziine hupenyu. - JoJo
Kungoda Kuve Wakajairika
Ndanga ndichida kungova munhu chaiye. Ndakanga ndisingakwanisi kuva nemhuri uye ndinonzwa ndisinganyatsogadzikana mumapoka kana mapoka ehukama nevepedyo vemhuri kana shamwari (kunze kwekuti ndinovaziva uye kuvimba navo). Ndiri kupandukira zvikuru kune simba. - Mad
Ndinotsvaka Ukama Husingakwanisiki
Nhasi ndinotsvaka kushamwaridzana hukama nevarume vasiri kurwisana, vane uwandu hwekutsamwa kana kupfidza kutsamwa uye vanopikisa uye vakadzi vasingafariri uye vanotonhora. Ndinogara ndichinzwa ndiri ndoga uye ndisingadiwi, sechinhu chakaipa neni. - Kuedza
Kuwana Avo Vanoda 'Kuponesa'
Hose hukama hwepedyo hwandakanga ndambova nevarume hwave huri nemunhu akadhakwa kana kuti anoda "kuponesa." Ndinotenda kuti ndakaona izvi sechikonzero changu choga chekukosha muhukama uye kuti kana ndikabudirira pakuponesa mumwe munhu ini ndichazonzwa nditsigirwa uye ndizviratidze kuti ini ndinodiwa shure kwezvose. - Kalo
Chivimbo changu Hachina
Ndichiri kurwisana nekutya uye kusiyiwa. Zvose izvi zvinondiita kuti ndive neukama nevarume vakandisiya uye kuvimba kwangu hakuna. Handisi kunzwa kuti ndinogona kuva muukama husingaperi nekuda kwekutya kurasikirwa uye kuvimba nezvimwe zveumwe munhu. - Donna
Wakave Wakakanganiswa Here?
Unoita chimwe chezvirevo izvi zvinonzwika zvakajairika here? Wakawana zvakaoma here kuumba hukama hwepedyo? Iwe unogona kuda kutora mibvunzo iyi kuti uone kana iwe wakanetswa nekuva nemubereki ane doro .
Kana iwe uri mudhaki uye uine vana vaduku mumusha, tapota tsvaka rubatsiro rwekurega kana kuderedza zvakare kunwa kwako vana vako vasati vachinzwa nenzira dzinoshandura hupenyu hwavo hwose.
Dzokera ku: Migumisiro Yokukura neAdhakwa
Sources:
Janet G. Woititz, "Zviitiko 13 zveVana Vakuru," The Awareness Center. Yakasvika muna November 2010.
Vakwegura Vana veAlcoholics World Service Organization, "The Laundry List - 14 Zviratidzo zveMwana Mukuru weAdha," (Yakapiwa na Tony A., 1978). Yakasvika muna November 2010.