1 - "Nemhaka yokuti mavambo anonyarara, hazvirevi kuti vanonyara."
Kunyange zvazvo mavhisi anokonzera inofungidzirwa makumi mana kubva muzana yevanhu, vanhu vane hutsika huno vanowanzotaura kuti vamwe havarati vavanzwisise. Vamwe vevadzidzi vedu vatsva vakaudza zvavanotenda ndezvimwe zvemashoko makuru, mafungiro, uye kusanzwisisana pamusoro pezvinorehwa kuva mutenzi.
Vanhu dzimwe nguva vanoita chikanganiso chokufunga kuti nekuda kwekuti munhu akanyarara, kuti zvinorevawo kuti vane nyadzi. Zvisinei, zvinokosha kuona kuti pane musiyano mukuru pakati pekuvhura, kunyara, uye kushungurudzika kwevanhu .
Vanhu vatsva havasi kunyanya kutya nezvekutaura kune vamwe, kunyange zvazvo vamwe vanhu vatsva vanoziva kunyara kana kushungurudzika kwevanhu .
Pane kudaro, zvinyorwa zvinongowanzova zvakanyanya kuchengetedzwa uye mukati-kutendeuka. Vanoda kusvika pakuziva mumwe munhu vasati vaita hurukuro dzakawanda. Vanosarudza kufunga vasati vataura. Vanowanzosafadzwa nehurukuro yakawanda kana hurukuro duku. Saka nguva inotevera paunoona mumwe munhu akanyarara uye akachengetwa, usafungidzira kuti vane nyara kana vanotya kutaura kune vamwe.
2 - "Handisi kutsamwa kana kuora mwoyo, ndinongoda kuva ndoga kwechinguva."
Apo anzwi anonzwa achidzvinyirirwa nekushamwaridzana kukuru, vanowanzoda nguva shomanana yakanyarara uye yoga kuti vaite zvakare. Zvinosuruvarisa kuti pane dzimwe nguva vanhu vanonyatsotsanangura chido ichi choga sekunzwa kusina kunaka, zvakadai sokutsamwa, kuora mwoyo, kunetseka, kana kufunganya.
Kana iwe uri mutauriri, unogona kuyeuka uchitaurirwa nevabereki kana vamwe vanhu vakuru kuti "vauye muimba yako uye murege kunonoka," pawakanga uchiri kungoedza kuve nenguva yakanyarara-nguva. Vakawanda vatsva vanogona kushamisika kuona kuti vamwe vanhu vanodudzira ichi chinodiwa kuti vave voga sevasina hanya kana kuti vasingateereri.
3 - "Ndiri kunakidzwa nenzira yangu ydiosyncratic."
Introverts haasi mapoka-poopers. Kunyange zvazvo vangave vakanyarara pamusangano mukuru wevanhu, uye hazvireve kuti havasi kufara.
Mune zviitiko zvakawanda, mavambo muimba yacho vanogutsikana kugara pasi nekucherechedza, kutora zvinhu zvose zvinofadza, manzwiro uye kukurukurirana. Vanoda kuziva uye vanoda kudzidza zvakawanda pamusoro penyika uye nevanhu vanovapoteredza. Kunyange zvazvo extroverts ingaita izvi kuburikidza nekubvunza mibvunzo uye kutanga kutaurirana, vatenzi vanoda kusheerera uye kuratidza.
4 - "Introverts haisi kunyengera."
Ndaimbova neshamwari yakanyanyisa zvikuru iyo yakavimbisa kuti dzimwe nguva dzimwe nguva dzakamuvhiringidza. "Ndaifunga kuti iwe wakanga usiri kunyanyisa pandakaonana newe," akatsanangura kudaro. "Iwe unogara wakanyarara, saka handina kumboziva zvaunofunga."
Panzvimbo pokutsanangura iyi yekuchengetedzwa kwekutanga sekunyengera, zvinokosha kunzwisisa kuti chirevo chinogona kungoda kukuziva iwe zviri nani asati anzwa akasununguka uye achida kuvhura.
5 - "Introverts haisi weird."
Maererano nezvimwe zvinofungidzira, zvinodarika 40 kubva muzana kana vazhinji vehuwandu vanozviti ivo sevanotverted. Kubva pamifananidzo iyo chete, kutaurira chokwadi hachisi chinhu chisina kunaka, chisingarevi kana kunyange chekuita.
Zvinyorwa zvisizvo dzimwe nguva zvisina kururama zvinongororwa sezvisinganzwisisiki. Zvichida izvi ndezvokuti vatenzi vanofarira kutevera zvido zvavo panzvimbo pokubhadhara zvakanyanya kune izvo zvinozivikanwa kana zvemaitiro.
6 - "Introverts haadi kuva oga nguva dzose."
Kunyange zvazvo vatsva vangave vachida kuva nenguva yakaga yoga zuva roga roga kuti vadzorere simba ravo, zvirokwazvo hazvirevi kuti vanoda kuve vari voga nguva dzose.
Zvinyorwa zvinonyatsoita sekupedza nguva nevanhu vavanoziva. Ndizvo chete kuti nguva nenguva vanoda nguva yakanyarara kuti vaise decompress uye vadzorezve simba ravanoshandisa panguva yekushamwaridzana.
7 - "Introverts haisi agoraphobic."
Kungoita kuti vakuvadzi vanyarara uye vanonakidzwa nenguva dzekutora hazvirevi kuti vanotambura neAgoraphobia . Zvechokwadi, vamwe vanhu vari vaviri vanoziviswa uye agoraphobic, asi imwe haisi iyo chiratidzo cheimwe.
Vakawanda vanovhura vanozvitsanangura se "veimba," kana vanhu vanonakidzwa nekurembera pamba uye kufara nemhuri dzavo uye zvinokuvaraidza. Izvi hazvirevi kuti vanotya nzvimbo dzevanhu vose.
8 - "Introverts haazviremekedzi."
Imwe nzira yakajairika yakajairika pamusoro pevatumwa ndeyekuti ivo vakanyarara uye vanochengeterwa nokuti vane kuderera kwekuzvikudza kana kusazvivimba.
Izvi zvinogona kunyanya kunetseka kune vana vatsva vanogara vachimanikidzwa mumamiriro ezvinhu nevakuru vanofunga kuti kufambidzana ndiyo nzira yeku "kugadzirisa" vana vavanoona sevanonyara uye vasina kuchengeteka. Vana vanogamuchira nguva dzose kubva kuvanhu vakuru nevezera ravo kuti pane chimwe chinhu chakakanganisika nehupenyu hwavo chete, zvisinei, vanotanga kuzvibvunza semugumisiro.
Zano: Usafungidzira kuti mwana akachengetwa haana kuvimba.
9 - "Introverts musavenga vanhu."
Vanhu avo vanopinda mavhesi havasi kushaya misanthropic. Muzvokwadi, zvinyorwa zvinowanzofarira vanhu; vanongonzwa vachineta nokukurukura kukuru uye kufambidzana. Kunyanya kuwanda kwekutaura kusingabatsiri.
Kutaura kuduku chimwe chinhu chinowanzoita kuti vanhu vakawanda vauye. Chavanoda chikonzero chekutaura. Tanga hurukuro inofadza pamusoro pechinhu icho mutenzi anofarira uye iwe ungangowana kuti vanogona kuva munhu anotaura zvakanyanya muimba.
10 - "Introverts haisi kuputsika uye haifaniri kugadziriswa."
Introversion inowanzobatwa sechinhu chinoda kukundwa.
Vakawanda vatsva vanotaura kuti vadzidzisi nevamwe vanhu vakuru vanovamanikidza kuti vapinde mumamiriro ezvinhu pavanonzwa vasinganzwisisiki kana kuti vakaodzwa mwoyo - kuita kuti mudzidzi akanyarara atore semukuru weboka, kupa mwana akachengetwa basa rinotungamirira mukutamba kwekirasi, uye kuunganidza vana vakagadzikana vana vaduku vanonyanya kufungidzirwa mukirasi yehurukuro dzeboka, somuenzaniso. Maitiro akadaro kazhinji anowirirana neshoko rakanyanyisa (asi rine nhamo risina tsananguro) tsanangudzo: "Iwe wakanyarara zvikuru uye kukuendesa kunze uko kuchakubatsira kuti upfuure!"
Asi kujekesa hachisi chinhu che "kutora." Kunyara kwakanyanyisa uye kushungurudzika kwevanhu zviri pachena zvinetso zvinoda kuongororwa, kunyanya kana zvikaguma nekutambudzika kukuru kana kuora mwoyo muupenyu hwezuva nezuva. Asi zvinhu izvi zvinofanira kuitirwa nenzira ine tsitsi netsitsi . Kumanikidzira mwana anonyara kana ane hanya mumamiriro ezvinhu omunharaunda umo vanonzwa vachinetseka kana vasinganzwisisi haisi nzira yakanakisisa yekugadzirisa nayo.
Sezvambotaurwa, kunyarara uye kunyara hachisi chinhu chimwe chete. Introverts haafaniri kuputsika uye kuendeswa kune dzimwe nzvimbo.
11 - "Kuudzwa kuti 'iwe wakanyarara zvikuru' zvose hazvina musoro uye hazvina hanya."
Introverts haisi ivo chete unhu hwemhando dzisinganzwisisi dzimwe nguva. Izvozvi zvinowanzopomerwa nevaya vasinganzwisisi sevari kutaura uye vanotaura zvakanyanya.
Sezvo mumwe muverengi ari kutsanangura, nokuda kwekuzivisa, nguva dzose kuudzwa kuti "iwe unyerere" zvakangofanana nekuudza munhu kuti "havana kumbovhara." Hazvina kunyadzisa uye zvinouya nechinangwa chokuti kune chakashata nemunhu.
Unhu huviri hunofanira kuedza kuedza kunzwisisa avo vanosiyana navo. Zvinyorwa zvine zvido zvavo pachavo uye quirks, sezvinonzi extroverts.
Chinonyanya kukosha, kwete dzose mavhisi (kana extroverts) akafanana. Kunyora unhu hwehumwe humwe nehukuru hunopotsa hunosiya mavara ose nemashoko anoita kuti munhu mumwe nomumwe ave oga. Asi kudzidza zvakawanda pamusoro pekuti vanhu vane hutano hwemhando idzi vanowanzofunga, kuita uye kunzwa zvinogona sei kuvandudza kunzwisisa kwako kwevanhu vakasiyana newe.
Kuvonga kwakakosha kuvadzidzi vangu vose avo vaida kugoverana pfungwa dzavo nezviitiko zvechikamu ichi.