Mushure mekufa Kwezvinodhaka, Tsigira uye Teerera
Mushure mekufa kubva pamishonga yemishonga mumhuri, zvakajairika kuti hama nevanoda kuti vazochema. Zvisinei, kutsigira vanhu vari kuitika kuburikidza nokurasikirwa kwezvinodhaka kunogona kuoma.
Nepo pangave nekurangarira kwakanaka kwezviitiko zvakanaka kune uyo waunoda wakafa, pangangodaro kunewo zvinotyisa zvinorangarirwa kubva kune zvakaitika zvakashata, zvakare, kusanganisira kutambudzika kunokonzerwa nokuona munhu waanoda akadhakwa kana kuti ane chisimba, matambudziko emari angangodaro akanganisa mhuri , nhoroondo yavo inogona kuitika mumuviri , mumanzwiro kana kumanikidzwa kwepabonde , matambudziko emutemo , kana matambudziko ane humwe hukama. Kurasikirwa neshamwari kana nhengo dzemhuri kubva pamishonga zvinodhaka zvinosuruvarisa zvikuru kana munhu wacho achiri muduku, uye zvimwe akave noutano.
Pasinei nekusava nehanya, iwe unogona kuwana nzira yekusigira kune mumwe munhu akarasikirwa neanoda kudhakwa kwezvinodhaka. Edza kuwana kukurudzirwa kubva pane zvinyorwa zvinotevera.
Iva Ipo
Paanoedza kutsigira mumwe munhu achangobva kurasikirwa nehama kana kuti anoda kune rufu kubva kune zvinodhaka, vanhu vanowanzoshamisika kuti vangatsigira sei uye vanorwisana nemashoko iwayo emashiripiti achabvisa marwadzo.
Iwe unogona kuita izvi kuburikidza nekugara mumuviri uye uchivabatsira kunzwa sevasina kurega. Semuyenzaniso:
- enda kundoshanyira kupedza nguva navo
- ive iripo kune foni
- pindura nokukurumidza ku-email mharidzo
- tumira kadhi, tsamba, kana maruva
Teerera
Kushungurudzika zvishoma pamusoro pekutaura "chakarurama" chinhu, uye nezvimwe pakubvumira munhu kutaura nezvechiitiko chavo, kana vakasarudza. Kuteerera kunosanganisira kumupa munhu kunyatsoteerera paunenge uchivabvumira nzvimbo yekutaura pasina kukanganisa.
Bvuma Manzwiro Evanhu
Mumwe mudiwa akafirwa nerufu kubva pamishonga inodhaka inogona kunge yakanyanya kuoma uye inopesana nemamwe vanhu vakafirwa. Vanogona kunzwa:
- rusununguko kana ruregerero kuti mutoro uyu hauchazovhiri upenyu hwavo nekusaziva uye kushungurudzwa
- kushungurudzika zvakanyanya pamusoro pezvingadaro zvakave kudai akafa akafa
- ane mhosva pamusoro penguva dzavaida kuti zvigone kupera
- nenzira imwechete iyo inotarisirwa kuunza rufu rwevadiwa vavo
Hapana yemanzwiro aya akanganisa, uye kubvuma kwako kuchabatsira shamwari yako kuitora.
Ratidza Kunzwira tsitsi, asi Usingarevi Kunzwira Ngoni
Kutaura kuti "Ndine urombo kuti uri kutarisana neizvi," inogona kunge yakatsigira kupfuura mashoko akadai, "Ndinonzwisisa manzwiro aunoita." Kunyangwe iwe wakarasikirwa nomumwe munhu kurufu kubva kune zvinodhaka, zvakaitika uye hukama hungave hwakanga hwakasiyana kwazvo, saka kuratidza kunzwisisa kunenge iwe usina kana kunoparadzanisa munhu akafirwa.
Ratidza kunzwira tsitsi kwepasi rose manzwiro evanhu angave ari chikamu chekutambudzika, zvakadai se:
- hasha
- kusuruvara
- kuora mwoyo
- kuzvidemba
Gara usina Neutral
Kuramba usina kwekurerekera kunogona kuva kunonyengera, kunyanya kana iwe uine maitiro asina kunaka, kana maonero pamusoro pemunhu akafa. Asi zvakanyanya kutsigira kuratidza kusava nemhosva kana manzwiro akaipa pamusoro pemunhu akafa, kunyange kana akafirwa akaita saizvozvo.
Kana uyo akafirwa achitaura nezvekutsamwa uye kushungurudza munhu akapindwa muropa, airemekedze ivo, somuenzaniso, achiti, "Izvozvo zvinofanira kunge zvakakuomera iwe," pane kuti, "Handizivi kuti nei iwe ukasungirira iyo idiot. "
Izvi zvinobvumira avo vakafirwa kuti vauye maererano nemanzwiro avo, uye kugamuchira zvikonzero zvavo pachavo nzira iyo vakabata nayo ukama, kana iwe kana iwe unonzwa sokuti yakarurama.
Kurudzira nekusimbisa kuzvitarisira
Kushungurudzika uye kuora mwoyo dzimwe nguva zvinogona kupinda munzira yevanhu vanozvitarisira zvakanaka. Nguva dzose kurara, kudya, uye kurovedza muviri zvinogona kuwira munzira.
Vakashungurudzwa vanogona kurega kuita uhu hwakanaka uye vangakundikana kuchengetedza imba yavo yakachena uye yakanaka. Iva anokurudzira uye ubatsire nenzira ine mutsa, isina chikonzero.
Batsira Nezvakanaka
Kune mabasa mazhinji ezuva nezuva munhu anorwadziwa angaregererwa nokuti vanonzwa vaora mwoyo kana vasingagoni kuwana simba.
Unogona kutsigirwa ne:
- babysitting
- kugadzirira kudya
- kubatsira nemabasa epamba
Panogona kuva nezvimwe zvinobatsira zvekutarisira, izvo zvingaita sekunetseka kune vakafirwa, zvakadai se:
- kuzivisa shamwari neshamwari dzerufu
- vachigadzirisa mariro
- kutarisana navanachiremba, magweta uye nhau dzefa
- kutarisana nedambudziko risina kugadziriswa pamutemo rinobva mukudhakwa, sekukwereta, kana nyaya dzakapoteredza rufu kubva pamishonga pachayo
Dzivisa Kupisa
Zvinogona kuva zvipo zvakaoma kutsigira kune mumwe munhu akarasikirwa nemudiwa akadikanwa. Manzwiro anogona kukwira kumusoro, uye inogona kunge iri kukonzera kuedza kubatsira. Asi kuvimbika kwako kunokosha.
Kana iwe uchinzwa uchinetseka iwe pachako, dzoka uye utore kupera. Usabvumira kusuruvara kukwira, uye enda kune mumwe munhu pamusoro pomunhu akafirwa. Kana vakawana, izvi zvinogona kukuvadza munhu akafirwa kupfuura iwe kana iwe usina kumboedza kuvatsigira pakutanga.
Kufambidzana Nomunhu Kuoma Zviitiko
Panogona kunge pane zviitiko zvinotevera kufa kweumwe munhu ane zvinodhaka zvinenge zvakaoma zvikuru kune wakafirwa. Kuti utsigire, unogona kupa kuti uende navo kune:
- ita zvinyorwa kumapurisa kana kuvanyori venhau
- taura navanachiremba, vafambisi vekuviga, uye magweta
- dare rinopfuurira
Remekedza zvido zvevakafirwa kana vachida kuita zvinhu izvi voga.
Ziva Kuti Kushungurudzika inzira
Kusuruvara inzira yakaoma inosanganisira zvikamu zvakasiyana-siyana, uye yakasiyana-siyana, uye kazhinji inopesana nemanzwiro. Vanhu vanosiyana zvakasiyana nekuita kwenguva yakareba sei kuti vadzoke kubva pakufa kwemudiwa.
Rega vanofirwa vaite izvi nenzira yavo pachavo uye munguva yavo, pavanenge vaine kutenda kuti pakupedzisira, vachawana rugare.
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