Miti Doro Zvinyorwa Mhuri Play
Sezvo shoko iri richienda, iwe hausi iye unokonzera mumwe munhu dambudziko rekunwa, haugoni kuchirapa uye iwe haugoni kuzvidzora. Asi pane nzira dzaungave uchiita kuti upe dambudziko.
Usati waisa mhosva pamatambudziko ose mumhuri yako kana ukama hwako paanomwa (kana) kunwa, zvingava kuchenjera kuongorora kuti kunwa kweumwe munhu kungave kwakakukanganisa sei, uye kuti wakaita sei kwauri.
Somuenzaniso, izwi rinotevera rinonyatsozivikanwa here?
- Handina dambudziko nekunwa kwangu! Dambudziko chete ndiro mafungiro ako. Kana iwe ukarega kurega kunyunyuta pamusoro pazvo, pakanga pasina dambudziko!
Zvakanaka, zviri pachena kuti chirevo ichocho hachina kukwana zvakakwana; mushure mokunge vose vakaramba dambudziko ndechimwe chezvinhu zvinoodza mwoyo zvinodhakwa nekudhakwa. Kune rumwe rutivi, chirevo chacho chingave chisiri nhema zvachose. Iwe unobata sei newaini yekudhakwa ?
Zvingaita here kuti maitiro ako ave chikamu chenhamo yose? Wakamboita "kutamba-mhanya" mumhuri here? Pane chimwe chinhu chaunogona kuita kuti uvandudze mamiriro acho ezvinhu here? Izvo zvinotevera zvinotsanangura chiitiko chinogona kuva muenzaniso wekudhakwa uye zvimwe zviitiko zvekuita chiitiko chacho. Pane imwe yerinzwi iri inozivikanwa here?
- Munhu akadhakwa anouya kumba uye akadhakwa, akadhakwa chaizvoizvo kuti awane kiyi mumusuo wekunze. Mushure mokuedza kakawanda kusina maturo, anosarudza kuti iyo yakarasika. Sezvo asingatsvaki munhu ari mumba kuti azive kuti akadhakwa zvikuru kuti asasunungure pachake pamikova yake, anoita sarudzo inoshamisa inogadzirisa dambudziko rake. Anoenda kunorara pamberi pejare!
Iwe ungaita sei?
Muponesi
"Muponesi" haabvumiri chiitiko ichi kuva "dambudziko." Sezvo iye ave achimumirira iye zvakadaro, anobuda kunze mudivi, anonwisa doro, anomuchenesa, uye anomuisa pamubhedha. Nenzira iyo vavakidzani havana kumbomuona achipfuura mumubhedha wemaruva!
Haana kumbotaura nezvechiitiko icho kwaari kana ani zvake.
Kana mumwe munhu anotaura nezvazvo, anoramba kune dambudziko. Anomuvandira, anovhara nokuda kwezvikanganiso zvake, uye anomudzivirira kubva munyika.
Sezvo zvinetso zvichiwedzerwa uye kunwa kwake kunowedzera kuwedzera , anotora mitoro yaimbova yake. Anogona kuwana basa kana kushanda maawa akawanda kubhadhara zvikwereti. Uye kana akapinda mudambudziko nemutemo, achabvisa denga nenyika kuti zviuye nebhaari yake.
The Provoker
Izvo "zvinotyisa" zvinopindura nekuranga doro nekuda kwezviito zvake. Anomirira kuti amuke mangwanani anotevera ndokumupa iye nemapuranga ose, kana kuti anobuda odzorera mvura inonaya!
Anotsoropodza, anoseka, uye anonyadzisa. Iye anopera. Anodanidzira achituka pamusoro pake zvokuti munhu wese anzwe. Anosvika pafoni uye anoudza shamwari dzake dzose kuti ari kurasikirwa. Akatsamwa uye anova nechokwadi chokuti doro nevamwe vose vanozviziva. Kana kuti anomupa fudzi rakatonhorera uye haatauri naye. Anotyisidzira kuenda.
Haaitenderi, kana. Hasha uye kutsamwa zvinoramba zvichivaka sezvo zviitiko izvi zvinowedzera. Haana kumubvumira kukanganwa kudarika kwake. Anoritora pamusoro pake uye anoshandisa sechimbo munguva yeramangwana - kunyange mwedzi kana makore gare gare.
Martyr
Munhu "akafira kutenda" anonyara pamusoro pemafambiro ewaini uye anomurega achizviziva nemabasa ake kana mazwi. Anodanidzira uye anomuudza, "Iwe unonyadzisa isu zvakare pamberi penharaunda yose!"
Anonyorova, chikwata, uye oga. Anosvika pafoni pamwe neshamwari dzake uye anotsanangura mhere-mhere kushungurudzika kwaakaita iye panguva ino! Kana kuti anonyara pamusoro payo anodzivirira shamwari dzake uye chero zvakataurwa pamusoro pechiitiko chacho.
Zvishoma nezvishoma anowedzera kubviswa uye akaora mwoyo. Anogona kunge asina kutaura zvakawanda nezvayo kumunhu akadhakwa, asi anomurega achiziva nezviito zvake kuti anonyara naye. Akanyatsoedza kuita kuti anzwe aine mhaka nokuda kwekuita kwake.
The Enabler
Mienzaniso iri pamusoro apa inogona kunge yakanyanyisa, asi zvakare zvakare inogona kunge yakanyanya kufanana nezvinoitika muimba inodhakwa . "Basa" iro risina kuroorwa nemudzimai asiri mumhuri rinogona kunge risina kunyatsorondedzerwa, sezvinorondedzerwa pano. Zvichienderana nemamiriro ezvinhu, mumwe wako angapinda mune rimwe remabasa aya kana kuti anogona kutenderera mberi nekubuda pakati pezvose.
Saka ndeupi wevakaroorana vanotsanangurwa pamusoro apa inobatsira? Ndeupi ari kunyanya kubatsira doro kufambira mberi mune chirwere chake? Ndeupi uyo, kunyange ari kuedza kuita zvinhu zviri nani, ari kunyanya kupa chikamu kuchinetso? Zvose zvavo.
Tsvaga kuti umwe neumwe wezviitiko izvi kune dambudziko rekudhakwa rinobatsira nekudzidza kuti ungapindura sei chiitiko chekupedzisira pasina kuva chikamu chechinetso. Iyi mibvunzo inogona kukubatsira kuti unzwisise kuti mararamiro ako ari kubatsira sei shamwari inodhakwa kana nhengo yemhuri.