Zvaunogona uye haugone kutarisira kubva kuchipatara
Mune ruzivo rwandinoona nekubvunzurudza nevarwere vari kufunga kuti kana kuti kwete kutevera maitiro epfungwa kunatsiridza hutano hwavo hwepfungwa, nzira yechisarudzo ichi inoshandiswa sevanhu vanoifamba.
Dzimwe nguva, ndiko kunetseka kweshamwari, shamwari, kana nhengo yemhuri iyo ndiyo inobatsira munhu kutsvaka rubatsiro. Mune dzimwe nguva, mudzidzisi, chikoro, shamwari, kana mushandirwi ari kusimbisa kuti zvido zvehutano hwepfungwa zvinonyanya kukoshesa kupfuura zvimwe zvose kuitira kuti munhu adzoke kuchikoro (kana kuti kushanda) pahutano hwakanaka hwepfungwa.
Kazhinji, vanhu vakuru vanoziva nzira dzavanoda kuti hukama hwavo huve nani, mafungiro avo kana kushungurudzika kuti vanzwe vachigadzikana, kana kuti maitiro avamwe vanga vanoda kuti vabatsire kuchinja; mune izvi zviitiko, vanhu 'vanozvitarisira' mukufarira kwekukura kwevanhu, kukura kwechiratidzo, uye huwandu hunovandudzwa hupenyu hwehupenyu.
Pasinei nokuti ungasvika sei pane chisarudzo chekuedza psychotherapy (kana kuti rudzi rwekutaura kwaunotaura iwe), iwe uchasvika pachikamu chako chokutanga neheti yezvaunotarisirwa kusanganisira dzimwe pfungwa dzisina kunaka pamusoro pehutano hwepfungwa.
Sei Kune Mafungiro Asina Kunaka Nezvepfungwa?
Kana iwe uri kunze kune imwe nzvimbo yehutano hwepfungwa, unogona kunge uri pakati pevanhu vose vanogona kubatsirwa nekubatsira kuvandudza utano hwepfungwa yekunyora (kureva, ruzivo pamusoro pezvinetso zvepfungwa). Izvi zvinonzwisisika uye hazvisi izvo chete pamunda wehutano hwepfungwa. Pashure pezvose, vasiri magweta havawanzoziva zvakawanda pamusoro pematare.
Asi zvinogona kuita kuti zvive zvakaoma kuti iwe uone chikumbaridzo chekutambudzika kukuru kwepfungwa iwe pachako kana vamwe (Onai izvi zvakasanangurwa kuti uone kusiyana kwe "kuzvidya mwoyo" kunokonzerwa nehutano hwepfungwa ). Uye inogona kuwedzera zvipingamupinyi kuti kubudirire kutanga psychotherapy kana kuda kumira nayo.
Mashoko anowanikwa nyore nyore pahutano hwepfungwa anouya kubva pane zvinyorwa zvemasvikiro. Kutsvakurudza kwakaratidza kuti vanhu vanogadzira mafungiro uye zvinotarisirwa zvechirwere chepfungwa zvichienderana nemifananidzo yavaona muTV. Uye sezvo iwe unogona kukwanisa kuenzanisa zvisiri izvo, dzimwe nguva-zvinokuvadza zvinoratidzika zvevamwe vashandi savanachiremba kana vadzidzisi vane ruzivo rwehupenyu hwako hwekuwana kurapwa kana dzidzo, zvingava zvakaoma kukunda kusagadzikana kwevanachiremba voutano hwepfungwa, kana chirongwa chepfungwa.
Zvausingafaniri Kutarisira kubva paPychotherapy
Kunzwisisa zvisingatarisiri kubva pane zvakaitika kunogona kukubatsira kuenda kumishonga se, sezvandinoda kufunga pamusoro payo, mudzidzi akadzidza ane pfungwa dzakasununguka .
Pano pane zvimwe zvinowanzoitika kunze kwezvaunotarisira kuti uedze kubva pamusuo usati wapinda muchikamu chako:
Usatarisira kugadzirisa nokukurumidza.
Pane huwandu huwandu hwezvinetso zvekuti rimwe chirongwa chepfungwa chepfungwa chinenge chichirapa chinenge chichidiwa (Kunze kweizvi zvinosanganisira kusarudza-sema-sermon therapial for certain phobia in adults, teens, and children.).
Zvimwe zvinowanzoitika, psychotherapy inobatanidza kushanda kwenguva pfupi kana kwenguva refu.
Iko kusarudzwa kwekutanga kunowanzoshandiswa iwe uye mushandi wako kuti uone kana (uye rudzi rwei) chirwere chinogona kubatsira. Iwe uchabvunzwa kutaura pamusoro pezvinokonzera zvakakonzera kuti utsvake, pamwe chete nezvikamu zvehutano hwako hwehutano, hwemagariro evanhu, uye hwemhuri huchabatsira mutapi kuti akuzive zviri nani.
Kune vamwe vanhu, hazvishamisi kutaura zvakasununguka pamusoro pezviratidzo uye nhoroondo. Kune vamwe, izvi zviri mukati maro uye pachedu chiitiko chinoderedza simba. Pasinei nokuti hazvibviri, zvinenge zvisingaiti kuti kuchinja kunogara kwenguva refu, kusagadzikana kana kugadziriswa kwemaitiro akareba ekufunga, kutaura, kana kuzvibata kunogona kuwanika zvakakwana mune zvishoma zvekugadza.
Izvozvo zvakati, zvinonzwisisika kutarisira nzira dzakarongeka, dzezvino-dzakatarisana nemafungiro ehutano hwehutano , psychotherapy, kana kuti kugamuchira uye kuzvipira kwekuzvipira kuva nguva isina kukwana. Psychodynamic psychotherapy uye psychoanalysis, kune rumwe rutivi, iyo inotarisa kuongororwa kwezvido zvisingazivikanwi uye zvirongwa zvingangoda nguva yakawanda yekutsvaga.
Muzviitiko zvakawanda, chirongwa chacho hachisi nyore.
Psychotherapy inoshanda. Izvo zvinoda kuti iwe utore wakaoma iwe pachako. Iwe hausi kuzova uri mune izvi; mushandi wako achashanda zvakaoma zvakare.
Iwe uchashanda pamwechete kuti (1) uwedzere kuwedzera kuziva pamusoro pezvinoita kuti uite dambudziko (somuenzaniso, nzira dzakasiyana dzekufunga, kusazvidzivirira maitiro, kuratidza kana kutarisana nemanzwiro akasiyana-siyana, kana kutaurirana maitiro), (2) kunzwisisa kuti iwe uripo sei mapurogiramu ari kushumira zvakanaka uye kwete zvakanaka, uye (3) kuedza nenzira dzakasiyana dzekufunga , kuita, kurondedzera, uye kubata.
Pamwe munzira, pane dzimwe nguva inguva iyo iwe unonzwa uchingowedzera kupfuura iwe usati wanzwa zviri nani. Kutaura nezvezviitiko zvinotyisa, semuenzaniso, zvinogona kuvhiringidza kurara. Kutarisana nenzira iyo vamwe vakakuitira zvakashata, kana iwe wakatambudza vamwe, zvinogona kutungamirira kusuruvara uye kutsamwa. Kutarisana nechimwe chinhu chaunotya-kana icho chichigadziriswa, kusimudza ruoko rwako mukirasi, kana kusarudza kuwana kurambana-kunogona kuumba kunyanya kunetseka munguva pfupi. Paunonzwa uchingowedzera nguva, rangarira kuti maitiro ekare ainzwa akaipa. Zvichida zvakakosha kupa nguva kuti uone kana nguva ino yakaoma ichizopa nzira kune zviri nani munguva refu?
Kutaura nemushandi wako hakuna kufanana nekutaura neshamwari.
Ukama hwehutano hwakasiyana nedzimwe hukama. Icho hachisi chokudzoka, kwete "mbiri-munzira." Iwe unogona kugovera zvido zvako zvepamusoro nemuongorori wako, uye iye haazove achipindura nenzira yakanaka. Unhu-hutungamiri hwekugoverana haufananidzi kuti uve nehasha kana kuti unorega, uye hausi chero rudzi rwechiratidzo chekutendeseka kana kukodzera kwako kune chiremba.
Pane kudaro, mushonga wako anogadzirisa miganhu pamusoro pei uye pavanenge vachigovana ruzivo rwavo kuitira kuti urambe uchitarisa pane iyo inoda kuva-iwe uye zvinangwa zvako-uye mune mamwe marudzi ekurapa, kukubatsira kuti uve nechinangwa chekufungidzira kwako (kana kuti maitiro) pamusoro pake seimwe nzira yekudzidza zvakawanda pamusoro pako. Miganhu yakagarwa nemurapi mune dzimwe nguva inogona kukuenzanisira iwe nzira dzekugadzirisa-kugadzirisa nevamwe.
Murapi wako haawanzokutaurira chaicho chaungaita, chisarudzo chekuita, kana kuti iwe wakaita 'zvakanaka' kusarudza.
Nemhaka yokuti mushandi wako haazove akararama zvakananga nemigumisiro yezvisarudzo zvako, iye kana achizorega kudzidziswa zvakanyanya. Iko kune chokwadi kunze kweizvi-iyo, kana pane kukanganisa kwekuchengetedza kwako kana chero ani zvake-iyo inogona kutungamirira mushandi wako kuti ave akanyatsogadzirira uye kuraira newe iwe kupfuura nguva dzose.
Zvimwe zvinowanzoitika, mushonga wako achakubvunza mibvunzo kuti ikubatsire kukutungamirira pakugadzirisa kuti chii chauri kuda kuita uye nei. Iye acharatidza zvakare izvo zvawakataura kuti zvikubatsire kuti uzvinzwe ne 'nzeve itsva' uye ugoita kunyatsoongorora. Muongorori wako anogona kukutungamirira kuti uone dzimwe nzira dzausina kumbofungidzira kana kufunga nezvakanaka, zvisina kunaka, uye 'pane imwe mukati' migumisiro yekutora imwe nzira.
Kana iwe ukashanda pamwe chete nemushonga iyeye pane nguva yakareba, mushonga wako angakwanisa kukuyeuchidza pamusoro pezvisarudzo zvisati zvaitika (uye nemigumisiro) kana mureza unodzokorora maitiro. Izvi zvinogona kuzivisa kuti iwe unopfuurira sei nesarudzo ikozvino pamberi pako, kana kuti iwe unoshanda sei nemigumisiro yaro.
Usatarisira 'kutengesa' nemutangi wekutanga waunoona.
Sezvo zvakasiyana sehukama hwekurapa ndezvekuti, inowirirana pamwe chete nedzimwe hukama hunoita kuti vanhu vaviri vauye pamwe chete.
Iwe uri pachena iwe nyanzvi yako, uye iwe unosvika kuhofisi yako yehupfungwa nekunaka kwehutano uye chimiro chako, unhu hwezvinetso zvinoshanda, uye pfungwa yezvinangwa zvako zverapi. Muongorori wako ndiye nyanzvi yehutano hwepfungwa, uye iye ari kukukwazisa nemhando yavo chaiyo yekurapa, nzvimbo dzechipatara ruzivo (kusanganisira rudzi rwemishonga inoshandiswa, makore kana boka rekuongorora rinowanzoshanda, nezvimwewo), uye kuchena .
Iwe haufaniri 'kutora' newachiremba wokutanga waunoona, kana panguva yekugadzwa kwekutanga. Zvinogona kutora mashomanana mashoma (zvichida nevanachiremba vashomanana) kuti vaone kuti zvakakosha zvakadini kwauri.
Kuwana Murapi Mukuru Kwazvo
Kukodzera kwakanakisisa kwakasiyana nevanhu vakasiyana, asi iwe unofunga mibvunzo inotevera sekubatsira kunotanga pakuongorora kunaka kwezvakakodzera iwe pachako:
- Ko mushonga wacho akapindura mibvunzo yako kuti ugutsikane nehutano hwako, wake / chipatara chake, uye mushonga upi unogona kusanganisa?
- Murapi uyu anoratidza unyanzvi (mukukurukurirana, mumamiriro ehofisi, mune zvaanotsanangura maitiro emitemo pamusoro pekuregesa, pangozi, nezvimwewo)?
- Ndiko kurapa anobvunza mibvunzo inofungisisa here?
- Iwe wakapiwa zvinetso zvako iwe pakutanga kwepfungwa, iwe unonzwa wakasununguka unotaura sei pachena nechiremba?
- Iwe unofarira maitiro ake, kusanganisira huwandu hwavo hwekukurukurirana newe, kushandiswa kwemashoko, kukwanisa kunzwisisa uye kugadzirisa mafungiro ako munguva yechirongwa?
Kuti udzidze zvakawanda, taura neAmerica Psychological Association kuti uwane mamwe mashoko pamusoro pezvaunotarisira uye izvo zvisiri kutarisira kubva kuchipatara.
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