Kubvumira Kunoita Mafomu Akawanda
Kazhinji apo mhuri neshamwari vanoedza "kubatsira" doro, ivo vari kuita kuti zvive nyore kwavari kuti varambe vari mukufambira kwechirwere.
Ichi chinoshamisa chinoshamisa chinonzi chichigonesa, chinotora mhando dzakawanda, izvo zvose zvinenge zvakafanana - zvichibvumira doro kubvisa migumisiro yezviito zvake. Izvi, zvakare, zvinobvumira doro kuti arambe achifara pamwe chete nemikana (kana) yake yekunwa, akachengeteka muzivo kuti pasinei nokuti yakawanda sei, mumwe munhu acharamba aripo kuti amurwire kubva pane zvaakakanganisa.
Ndeupi musiyano pakati pekubatsira nekugonesa? Kune maonero akawanda uye maonero pane izvi, zvimwe zvingawanikwa pamapeji akabatanidzwa pasi apa, asi heino tsanangudzo iri nyore:
Kubatsira kuita chimwe chinhu kune mumwe munhu chavasingagoni kuita ivo pachavo. Kubvumira kuita mumwe munhu zvinhu zvavanogona uye zvinofanira kunge zvichizviita.
Kungobatsira, kuita kuti kuve nemamiriro ezvinhu umo doro rinogona kunyatsogadzirisa unhu hwake husina kugamuchirwa.
Iwe Uri Anokwanisa Here?
Uri Kuita Kuti Inwe Doro Here Kana Kuti Usapindwa Muropa?
Pindura mibvunzo iyi 10 kuti ikubatsire kusarudza kana kana zvisakadaro zviito zvako uye maitiro ako kune doro zvingave zvichigonesa.
Dzvanya pahutano hwepamusoro kuti utore chidzidzo chekuzviongorora chinokwanisa. Kana wakapindura "hongu" kune chero ipi zvayo mibvunzo, iwe pane imwe nguva munguva yakaita kuti mudhakwa azvidzivirire mabasa ake. Pane "kubatsira" doro, iwe wakanyatsoita kuti zvive nyore kwaari kuti awedzere.
Kana wakapindura "hongu" kune vakawanda kana mibvunzo yose, iwe hauna kungoita kuti munhu anenge achinwa doro, iwe unogona kunge uri mukuru wekuwedzera nekuenderera dambudziko uye mikana yakave yakakanganiswa nechirwere iwe pachako.
Kutarisana Nemigumisiro Yokunwa
Chero bedzi mudhakwa ane zvigadziriro zvake zvinobatsira panzvimbo, zviri nyore kwaari kuti arambe achiramba kuti ane dambudziko - sezvo zvakawanda zvezvinetso zvake zviri "kugadziriswa" neavo vanopoteredza.
Chero paanomanikidzwa kutarisana nemigumisiro yezviito zvake, zvingazopedzisira zvakanyura pakuderera kwechinetso chake.
Zvimwe zvezvisarudzo izvi hazvisi nyore kune shamwari neshamwari dzevanodhakwa. Kana uyo anodhakwa akadhakwa nemari yaifanira kubhadhara mari yebasa, haasi iye oga achagara muimba ine rima, inotonhora, kana inopisa. Vamwe vose vemhuri vachatambura pamwe chete naye.
Tough Choices for the Family, But Choices
Izvo zvinoita kuti sarudzo chete yemhuri iite seyo kutora mari inotarisirwa kutenga zvekutengesa uye kubhadhara mari yekuvhenekera panzvimbo iyo sezvo pasina munhu anoda kuve asina unobatsira.
Asi iyo haisi yega sarudzo. Kutora vana kune shamwari kana hama, kana kunyange nzvimbo yekuvata, uye kurega doro achiuya kumba ari oga muimba ine rima, ndicho chisarudzo chinochengetedza mhuri uye chinosiya chiso chinodhakwa chiso nechiso nechinetso chake .
Izvo zvipo zvekusarudza zvakaoma. Vanoda " musasa nerudo ." Asi rudo. Kunze kwekuti uyo akadhakwa anobvumirwa kutarisana nemigumisiro yezvaanoita, haazombozivi kuti kunyanya kunwa kwake kwava dambudziko sei-kwaari uye kune avo vakamupoteredza.
Kuwana Rubatsiro Kushanda Nekudhakwa Kweumwe Munhu
Kazhinji avo vanoswedera pedyo newaini kana muropa vanofunga kana vachigona kumubvumira kuti arege kunwa kana kudhakwa, iyo ichagadzirisa matambudziko ose.
Vanogona kuedza mhuri kupindira uye dzimwe nzira dzakawanda kuedza "kugadzirisa dambudziko."
Asi mhuri dzakawanda dzinoona kuti kunyange kana uyo anodhakwa kana akapindwa muropa achibva apera, zvinetso zvinogara. Kune mhuri dzinobata pamwe nekushingaira kana kuwanazve doro, pane zvakawanda zvinowanikwa zvekubatsira nekukutsigira iwe kuburikidza nezvinetso. Nhengo dzakawanda dzemhuri dzakaona kuti kusangana neAl-Anon Family Groups kwakashandura hupenyu hwavo zvachose.