Kutamba Nekuzvidya Mwoyo
Hapana munhu ane simba nekuzvidya mwoyo . Izvi zvinokonzera kuti kunyanya kufunganya kunokonzera mafungiro ehupenyu uye hutano huno hunoita chinangwa chinokosha-kukurudzira chiito.
Muzana remakore remakore rechimakumi maviri, masayendisiti ezvepfungwa Robert Yerkes naJohn Dodson vakacherechedza ukama huri pakati pekuzvidya mwoyo kumutsa nekuita (kana kushanda) mukutsvakurudza kwavo kwepabonde. Zvavakawana-izvo apo vanhu vane zvakawanda kana zvishoma zvishoma zvokumutsa muviri vanoedza kubata zvakanaka-inozivikanwa seYerkes-Dodson mutemo, uye inoratidza kukosha kwekuzadzisa kukwana kwakanaka pakati pekushanda nekuzorodza kwezvakanaka.
Kana iwe uri kutsvaga 'kuwedzeredza zvibereko zvako'-kana izvo zvinoreva kuti unyanzvi kana kuti munhu kubudirira iwe sezvaunorondedzera-kutarisa kune vanhu vanogara vachizviisa mumatambudziko uye vachidzidza kutamba zvakanaka naro (pane kurwisana naro) vanogona kupa mamwe mazano anobatsira.
Iro "Upenyu seMutambo" Chirevo
Dr. Jonathan Fader, nyanzvi yemagariro ezvemagariro eEric League Baseball yeNew York City, anotiyeuchidza kuti kune zvakawanda zvokudzidza pamusoro pokutamba nekuzvidya mwoyo kubva kune avo vanozviita kakawanda kusanganisira vatambi vechidiki, vanodzima moto, mapurisa, uye nhengo dzeuto.
Izvo izvo "kufunganya" izvi zvakafanana ndezvokuti vanogara vachidzidzira kuwedzera mafungiro avo nemafungiro ehupenyu, kutarisira mahedheni aya, uye vachidzokorora vachizviisa kune zvinyorwa (semuenzaniso, bhoti re tennis rinoshandiswa kune ravanotungamira, inzwi rerima rinopisa moto kana kunhuwa kwehutsi mumhepo). Mubhuku rake, Dr. Fader anosimbisa kuti kana kushungurudzika kuchiitika-uye zvinonyatsove- "hapana manzwiro evanhu haasi chinangwa." Asi, chinangwa ndechekuona chidimbu chekumutsa icho chinokodzera iwe, chinokuita iwe nzira yakanaka isina kukumanikidza.
Ndezvipi zvinobudirira zvinoita kuti hutano uite zvakaoma mukati mehupenyu hunonetsa nguva?
Funga Mindset
Nokushandisa kuzvitaura, zvingangoita zvinogona kugadziriswa zvakare sematambudziko. Izvi ndezvechokwadi kune mutambi wemutambo sezvo iye achigadzirira kugadziriswa kwechibvumirano sezvazvakaitirwa mudzidzi anogara kugadziriro yakaoma kupfuura yakatarisirwa, kana bhizinesi anononoka nguva yepurojekiti yakasimudzwa.
Kugamuchira pfungwa yekukura (izwi rakagadzirwa naStanford University gweta rezvepfungwa) Carol Dweck) danho rekutanga rinokosha pakudzidza nhoroondo itsva inobatsira. Kukura kwepfungwa ndeimwe umo iwe unotenda kuedza kwakadaro, kudzidza, nekusimbiswa kunotungamirira pakuita zviri nani.
Izvi zvinopesana nezvishoma-kudarika-zvinobatsira pfungwa dzakagadziriswa, umo mazano-kuva kuchenjera kana matarenda-anotendwa kuti haashanduki. Fixed mindsets (somuenzaniso, "Ndiri mutauriri anotyisa wevoruzhinji." Kana kuti "Handisi munhu wokusika.") Zvinogona kutungamirira mukudzivisa zviitiko apo iwe unganzwa sekukundikana. Asi iwe haunodzidze zvakawanda , kana kuvandudza unyanzvi hwako.
Kuwedzera pfungwa pfungwa kunogona kutungamirira kune kukurudzira uye kukurudzira kuzvitaura, kusimbiswa pamabasa pane kuguma, nekutsvaga mikana yekuita nekuvandudza mune imwe nzvimbo.
Tarisira uye Gadzirira Kuzvidya Mwoyo
Nyanzvi dzevashandi, vekutanga vapindura, uye nhengo dzehondo dzinodiwa kutora chikamu pakuita zvigadziriswa kwechikonzero. Kuita maitiro kunogona kuvandudza kupindura nguva nguva, kuita tennis kushumira kunogona kukurumidza kukurumidza, kugadzirira kukwira nedombo-kukwira mukati kunogona kusimbisa simba uye urongwa. Kunze kwekugadzirisa simba uye unyanzvi, maitiro aya mikana yevanhu kuti vadzidze kuti zvakanakisisa sei kurarama nemuviri uye mupfungwa mupfungwa.
Imwe nzira yakaoma iyo iwe unogona kutora kutonga pamusoro pemararamiro emutumbi wako wekushushikana nekuzvidya mwoyo, Dr. Fader anonyora, ndeyokuita maitiro ekufema (Verenga pano dzidza zvakawanda pamusoro pekufema maitiro zvinonyanya kuratidza zviratidzo zvekunyanya kufunganya .).
Sezvishoma kana zvitanhatu zvakakwana zvinoputika uye kubuda kwemafuro zvinogona kubatsira munhu akawandisa kuderedza kuzvidya mwoyo kwake, anotsanangura Dr. Fader, uye kubatanidza kufema-kuita basa nekutaridzidzira maitiro (kureva, kuenzanisa zvinhu zvose zvechiitiko chakaoma) kunogona kusimbisa muviri wako uye mupfungwa nheyo mukugadzirira. Kuti uwane zvakawanda pakubatanidzwa kwemazuva ose ekufema-kuita basa mumatambudziko ako, ona American Institute of Stress's recommendations.
Dzokera Kudzo Usati Waenda mberi
Muhupenyu semitambo, pane mifananidzo mizhinji ye nzira iyo vatambi vechikwata vanoenda kune vanoona-maitiro-kunyanya kutora izvo Dr. Fader anoona "wechitatu-munhu-point-of-view" yemitambo yavo. Izvi zvingava chikonzero chimwe chemuitiro wakajairika wekuongororwa kwemupapa mifananidzo mumitambo yakasiyana-siyana.
Nenzira yekuti vasati vadzidzisi vemitambo pakati pedu, maonero akazvidzivirira pachedu anogonawo kuwanikwa. Kufungidzira uye kuratidzira zvinogona kubatsira, sezvinogona kuzvibvunza mibvunzo shomanana. Kuti udzidze kubuda kunze kwako uye nguva, Dr. Fader anorayira kuve netsika iyo yaunoshamisika nayo pamusoro (1) chiitiko chako chepanyama kwechinguva, (2) manzwiro anotanga nekuguma, uye (3) kana iwe uchigona kuona chero Zvakanaka kutarisa pamhinduro yako kune dambudziko.
Chinangwa chemuitiro uyu ndekukurudzira mweya wekuda kuziva, panzvimbo yekupa mhosva, mukuzvifungidzira. Nokufamba kwenguva, izvi zvinogona kushandura zvakajeka muhuwandu hwekutonga, kusaruramisira. Dr. Fader anotsanangura, "Kana iwe unogona kunge uchida kunzwa manzwiro uye manzwiro pamusoro pekuzvidya mwoyo kwako sechinhu chisina kunaka uye kwete kukuvadza, unogona kuwana pfungwa ye simba pavari kunyange zvazvo vasina kuenda."
Shandisa Mutumbi Kuti Uve Nokuvimba
Zvatisingazvitauri-maitiro edu, inzwi rezwi, kana kutungamirirwa kwatinoona-kunotaurirana kune vamwe uye kwatiri. Chimbofunga bhasika mutambi uyo anopindura pfuti yakarasika nokutarisa pasi, achizunza musoro uye achivhima mafudzi ake. Muviri wake unogona kunge uchiita zvinofungwa nemanzwiro ekuodza mwoyo nenzira inonzwisisika, asi pfungwa dzake dzinogonawo kuita kumutumbi wake-zvichida nemanzwiro ekusava netariro uye nekutenda kuti haakwanisi kubvisa mukana wekutora matatu.
Kusiyana neizvi nevanotungamira scorer muboka. Kana akashaya pfuti, anogona kubvisa kuvhiringidzika nekugadzirisa boka revanhu, uye iye pachake nekuwedzera.
Kuvandudza kusagadzikana pasi pekumanikidzika apo iwe unotamba nekuzvidya mwoyo kwako, Dr. Fader anorayira kutanga nekutsvaga imwe kana mbiri dzekuita kuti uchinje. Izvi zvinogona kunge zvakamira zvishoma, zvichizorodza mapepa ako kana mashizha, kana kutaura zvakananga zvishoma nezvishoma. Cherechedza kana kuchinja kwemuitiro mumwe kunotungamirira kune imwe, kana kuti zviitiko zvakanaka zvepanyama zvinowanzoitika (semuenzaniso, kufema kunonoka, kuderera kwepfungwa yemwoyo).
Usakanganwa Kufara
Sezvaunotanga kutamba nemamwe emitambo yakataurwa pamusoro apa, yeuka kuti kutamba kunoreva kutamba. Ita nepaunogona napo kuti uunze humwe chiedza kune basa riripo. Ita zvinopesana nemasikirwo ako evanhu kuti aone kuti chii chakaipa, Dr. Fader anopa mazano mubhuku rake, uye aita chinangwa chekutarisa pane zvakakwira zvakanaka iwe neveke vauchikwata navo muhupenyu. Mubairo haufaniri kunge wakakura, kana kunyange zvakananga zvakanamatira kune zvaunotarisira kuchinja; zvinongoda kuva chinhu chakanaka chaunofunga kuti wawana kubva pamabasa ako.
Shanduro yemabhuku yeiyo inotevera yakapiwa nemuparidzi kuti aongorore:
Fader, J. Mararamiro Semutambo: Ndeapi Vatambi Vanokwanisa Kukudzidzisai nezvekukunda muhupenyu. Da Capo Press: Boston, MA (2016).
> Sources:
> Dweck, CS Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Ballantine Mabhuku: New York, NY (2006).
> Jerath, R., Crawford, MW, Barnes, VA & Harden, K. Kuzvimiririra kweKubvambura seChinhu chikuru cheKutambudzika Kwekuzvidya Mwoyo. Appl. Psychophysiol. Biofeedback 40, 107-115 (2015).
> Yerkes, RM & Dodson, JD The Relation of Strength of Sustimus to Rapidity Habit-Formation. J. Comp. Neurol. Psychol. 18, 459-482 (1908).