Nhanho Dzakanakira Kukurira Iyi Manzwiro
Pose munhu wose anonzwa kusurukirwa nguva nenguva, nevanhu vazhinji vachiva kunyanya kuziva manzwiro okusurukirwa mukati megore rezororo, Zuva raValentine , uye munguva dzekunyanya kunetseka. Kunyange zvazvo nhamba yakawanda yevanhu vanoona kusurukirwa yakakura zvikuru (kusarudzwa panzvimbo ino kunoratidza kuti hovha yega yega inowanikwa nechiyero chinoshamisa chevaverengi, somuenzaniso), vanhu havasi kutaura nguva dzose nezvekunzwa kusurukirwa, uye nguva dzose unoziva zvokuita nemanzwiro aya.
Zvimwe kunze kwekurwadziwa mupfungwa, kusurukirwa kunogona kukanganisa vanhu nenzira dzakawanda:
- Chirwere Chepanyama: Tsvakurudzo inoratidza kuti nzvimbo dzehuropi dzinosangana nekuregwa kwevanhu munharaunda ndezvimwe nzvimbo dzinoshungurudza kurwadziwa kwepanyama, kuwedzera tsanangudzo yesayenzi kuchiitiko chinonyanya kufarirwa che "mwoyo wakaputsika."
- Kushungurudzika: Chimwe chidzidzo chakawana kuti vanhu vakasurukirwa vakaratidza zviratidzo zvekuora mwoyo uye kuti vanhu vari voga uye vakaora mwoyo vakada kuve ne "kushamwaridzana" kuduku mumagariro evanhu. Tsvakurudzo yakawanawo kuti kuora mwoyo uye kusurukirwa kunogona kudyidzana, mumwe nomumwe achiwedzera imwe.
- Nyora Utano: Ongororo dzinoverengeka dzakabatanidza kushungurudzika mupfungwa nemunhu akaora mwoyo. Mimwe tsvakurudzo inobatanidza kusurukirwa uye kuora mwoyo nehutano hwakashata uye hutano. Izvozvo zvinoreva kuti vanhu vari kusangana neusurukirwa vanogona kuve nehutano hwakasiyana-siyana.
Kana uri kusurukirwa, kune zvimwe zvinhu zvaungaita pamusoro payo.
Uyai neChikoro
Kunyangwe iri yeruzivo yekirasi, kirasi yekudzidzira, kana kirasi kumunharaunda yako yekodhiji yepamunharaunda, kusangana nekirasi zvinongokutsanangurira boka revanhu vanogovana chimwe chezvaunofarira. Inogonawo kupa pfungwa yekuve iyo iyo inouya nekuva chikamu cheboka . Izvi zvinogona kukurudzira kugadzirisa, kukupa chimwe chinhu kutarisira mukati mezuva, uye kubatsira kubvisa kusurukirwa.
Volunteer
Kuzvipira nokuda kwechikonzero iwe unotenda mazviri kunogona kupa zvikwaniso zvakafanana sekutora kirasi - kusangana nevamwe, kuva chikamu cheboka, kuumba zvitsva zvitsva-uyewo kunounza kubatsirika kwekuda , uye kunogona kukubatsira kuwana zvinorehwa muupenyu hwako , zvose zvingaunza mufaro mukuru uye kugutsikana kweupenyu, pamwe nekuderedza kusurukirwa. Uyezve, kushanda nevamwe vane zvishoma kunogona kukubatsira kunzwa manzwiro akadzama okuonga pamusoro pezvaunazvo muupenyu hwako.
Tsvaga Support Online
Nokuti kusurukirwa ndechimwe nyaya yakapararira, pane vanhu vazhinji vari paIndaneti vari kutsvaga vanhu kuti vauye navo. Iwe unofanirwa kuchenjerera uyo waunosangana naye paIndaneti (uye, pachena, haufaniri kupa chero ruzivo rwomunhu pachake sehuwandu yako yebhangi yebhangi), asi iwe unogona kuwana rubatsiro rwechokwadi, hutano uye ushamwari husingaperi kubva kuvanhu waunosangana paIndaneti.
Simbisa Ukama Hwako
Iwe zvichida watova nevanhu muhupenyu hwako kuti unogona kusvika pakuziva zviri nani, kana kubatana nemhuri inogona kuwedzerwa. Kana zvakadaro, sei usingafambidzani shamwari dzimwe nguva, uende navo zvakawanda, uye uwane dzimwe nzira dzekunakidzwa neukama hwako huripo uye kusimbisa zvisungo? (Ona nyaya ino pamusoro pekusimbisa ushamwari hunotsigira pfungwa dzakawanda.)
Tora Pet
Zvipfuwo - kunyanya imbwa nemakati - zvinotakura zvikomborero zvakawanda, uye kudzivirira kusurukirwa ndeimwe yavo. Kununura chipfuwo chinobatanidza zvikomborero zvekuda uye kushamwaridzana, uye kunokusiya iwe nevakawanda-vasuru-varwi. Inogona kukubatanidza nevamwe vanhu-kufamba imbwa kunokuzarura kune imwe nzvimbo yeimwe imbwa-walkers, uye imbwa yakanaka pane leash inowanzova vanhu magnet. Uyezve, mhuka dzemhuka dzinopa rudo rusingaverengeki , runogona kuva rurefu yakakura yekusurukirwa.
Kuchengetedza Kushandura Utano uye Mamwe Marudzi eTherapy
Kutsvakurudza kwakaratidza kuti kusurukirwa uye kuora mwoyo zviratidzo zvinogona kuita nenzira inobatsira kugadzirisa hukama hwakanaka, zvinoreva kuti iwe uri oga uri wega, iwe unonzwa wakaora mwoyo, uye zvakasiyana.
Zvinowanikwawo kuti vanhu vari kusurukirwa vanowanzofunga kusurukirwa kupfuura vamwe kana vari nevamwe vanhu, zvinoreva kuti kunyange kana vaine vamwe vanhu, vanhu vakasurukirwa vanowanzochengeta kusurukirwa kwavo kusvika kune imwe. Nokuda kweizvi, dzimwe nguva "kungobuda kunze" uye kusangana nevamwe vanhu hazvina kukwana. Kana izvi zviri izvo kwamuri, zvingava pfungwa yakanaka kutsvaga psychotherapy kubatsira nemanzwiro okusurukirwa, kunyanya kana iwe unonzwawo zviratidzo zvekuora mwoyo zvakadai sokurasikirwa mune zvekunakidzwa kwezvinhu zvawaimbofarira. Mamwe maitiro erapi, kunyanya kugadzirisa maitiro ehutano , anogona kukubatsira kuti uchinje mafungiro ako pamwe nezviito zvako kukubatsira kwete kungoona kusurukirwa zvakanyanya, asi ita zvakawanda muupenyu hwako kudzivirira kusurukirwa.
Chero chipi zvacho chaunoita kurwisa kusurukirwa, ziva kuti iwe hausi wega, uye pane zvinhu zvakawanda zvaunogona kuita kuti uzvinzwe zvakanyanya.
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