Amai Vanoita Muhukama
Chinangwa chehukama hwepfungwa chinonyanya kukoshesa ukama hwedu nevamwe. Maererano nedzidziso iyi, unyanzvi hwedu hukama hwehupenyu hunosimbiswa zvakasimba mukubatanidzwa kwedu kwepakutanga nevabereki vedu, zvikurukuru amai vedu. Zvinhu zvinoreva vanhu, zvikamu zvevanhu, kana zvinhu zvenyama zvinomiririra kana munhu kana chikamu chemunhu. Huru hukama, saka, hukama hwedu kune vanhu kana zvinhu.
Tinotsvaga kuti iwe unobatwa sei uye kuti ukama hwako naamai vako hupi hunogona kutaura nezveramangwana rako muhukama.
Chikwata cheFranudian psychoanalytic theory , chinonzi chibvumirano chekudyidzana chakagadzirwa mukati mekupedzisira kwema1920 nema1930 uye chakave chakakurumbira zvikuru muma1970. Karl Abraham, Margaret Mahler, naMelanie Klein vari pakati pevaya vanozivikanwa nekwakabva nekugadziridzwa. Nzira yehukama hwemashoko dzimwe nguva inoshandiswa mukurapa kwebibias , kunyanya iyo inotarisa kuvanhu, kana ukama hwedu navo.
Kunze neZvamwe Zvinhu
Chimwe chinhu chiri kunze chiri munhu chaiye kana chimwe chinhu icho munhu anopa mari nesimba rake. Chinhu chose chiri munhu sezvaari chaizvoizvo, nezvose zvakanaka uye zvisingaiti zvaanoita. Kana tikabudirira kubudirira mumatanho ekufambisa, isu tinokwanisa kurondedzera kune vamwe sevamwe uye sevari chaizvoizvo.
Chinhu chinopinda mukati ndechekufunga kwedu kwepfungwa nemanzwiro emuunhu. Icho chimiro chatinomira apo munhu wacho asiri mumuviri ipapo, uye inoguma maonero atinoita munhu uyu muupenyu hwehupenyu. Somugumisiro, chinhu chinenge chiri mukati chinobatsira zvikuru ukama hwedu nemunhu iyo inomirira.
Chinangwa Nguva
Chinhu chinoramba chiripo kukwanisa kuziva kuti zvinhu hazvishanduki chete nokuti hatingazvioni. Vana vacheche vanotanga kudzidza kudzikama kwezvinhu kana vabereki vavo vachienda kwenguva pfupi ndokudzoka. Sezvo vana vakakura, vanotanga kushandisa nguva yakareba kwenguva kure nevabereki vavo. Kuparadzanisa kunetseka uye kutya kwekuregererwa kunowanzoonekwa kune vanhu vasina kubudirira kubudirira pfungwa yechinhu chisingaperi.
Amai Inokonzerwa: Kuikurira Izvo Pamwe Chete
Chinangwa chehukama hwemazano chinotaura kuti nzira iyo vanaamai nemucheche vanoita zvakakosha mukukura kwevana uye kubudirira . Kana kutarisirwa kwakakwana kana kuti "zvakanaka" vana vanogona kukudziridza avo vechokwadi, iyo ndiyo chikamu checheche iyo inogadzira uye inokanganisa, asi kana iyo isiri, inoumba munhu wenhema kana mumwe ari kutamba kune zvaanoda yevamwe uye yakavakirwa mukuteerera kune zvido zvevamwe, panzvimbo yehutano hwemwana. Nokufamba kwenguva, kuchengetwa kwevabereki kwakagamuchirwa kuchaita kuti munhu wega wega aite zvinotevera:
- Kubata - rudo rwepanyama uye kubata kusanganisira kukwadza, kubata maoko, kana chikwata kugara iwe unozivikanwa uye unogara uchiita mukugutsikana kwevabereki vako.
- Amai nevana vacheche vari pamwe chete - vachiona kurarama kwezuva nezuva kwepfungwa dzepfungwa nepanyama zvakadai sekudya, kugadzirisa nekubatana nemabasa emunhu zvakakosha kuti vana vakwanise kukura.
- Baba, amai nechecheche, vose vari vatatu vachigara pamwe chete - apo mwana anokura achiva akadzero uye achizozvipa rusununguko, kukosha kwekupupura kushamwaridzana kwaamai nababa kunokosha pakudzidzisa mwana kutarisirwa kwepabonde kunze kwomunhu oga wavanoona pakati baba naamai.
Chinangwa chehukama hwepfungwa chinobata kuti chink mune imwe yezviito izvi zvinokosha inogona kukonzera nharo mukudziridza hukama munguva yehupenyu.
Sonoma State University. Object Relations Theory.
Indiana Resource Center for Autism. Dzidziso yeChenjeri muAustism.