Kuti ukunde kuzvidya mwoyo, kuputsa kubatana mune izvi zvinotyisa
Chirwere chinokonzerwa nekuzvidya mwoyo (GAD), mune vanhu vakuru nevechidiki , chinoratidzwa nekuramba, kunyanya kunetseka. Kana dambudziko racho ratanga uye rakaguma nokufunganya, zvingasava chinhu chikuru chakadai. Pane kudaro, vanhu vane GAD vanobatwa pasi sezvo kunetseka kunotungamirira kune imwe uye imwe.
Chii Chinoita Kuti Pave Nenguva Yokuzvidya Mwoyo?
Zvinotambudza, zvimwe zvingangove zvisingagadziriswi, zvinochengetwa nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakawanda. Chokutanga, zvimwe zvinonetsa zvinogona kuramba zvichida nekuda kwekufunga kwepfungwa . Izvi zvinogona kusanganisira kufungidzirwa kwehutano hwehuipi huipi kana kuwedzererwa kwekuti zvakaipa zvakadini zvichaitika. Zvimwe zvinetseka zvinosimbiswa nemafungiro asina kunaka pamusoro pedu, zvakadai sekutenda kuti munhu aisazokwanisa zvachose kutarisana nekusava nechokwadi kana chiitiko chisingadi.
Chechipiri, kunetseka kunogona kupfuurira nekuda kwekuti ruzivo rwemamiriro ezvinhu rwakagadzirwa sei. Munhu ane GAD angasarudza zvakananga mune ruzivo runotsigira kunetseka uye kusazvidza uchapupu hunopikisa. Chiyeuchidzo chinogona kusarudza zvakare; mune dzimwe nguva, vanhu vane zvinetso zvekuzvidya mwoyo vanoomerwa nekuyeuka dhesi iyo isingaenderani nekunetseka kwakanyanya.
Chechitatu, kunetseka kunopfuurira nekuda kwenzira dzavanopindurwa. Vanhu vane matambudziko asina kunetseka vane shungu vanowanzotarisana nekutya kwavo kuburikidza nekuedza (1) kudzivisa kushungurudzika, (2) kutsvaka kuvimbiswa kuti hapana chakaipa chichaitika, kana (3) kudzivisa mamiriro ezvinhu angangotyisa kutya. Zvinosuruvarisa, nzira idzi dzinogona kuita kuti vanhu vanzwe vakasuruvara uye vosimbisa (kureva kusimbisa) kuzvidya mwoyo pane kuideredza, nokudaro kuumba zvakaoma-ku-kuputsa.
Nherera Yekuzvidya Mwoyo uye Nzira Yokuikurira nayo
Tora, somuenzaniso, kushungurudzika kuti " Mukomana wangu achazorora neni. "Uyu ndiwo mafungiro anonyanyisa anonyatsoita kuti munhu ave. Inogona kubuda 'kunze kwebhuruu' kana mukupindura kune imwe mamiriro ezvinhu. Zvisinei, munhu ane hanya zvikuru anokwanisa kuongorora pfungwa iyi seinonyanya kukosha, ongorora zvose zvikonzero nei pfungwa iyi ingave yechokwadi, edza kuderedza kushungurudzika munguva pfupi (kunyatsosimbisa iyo kwenguva refu), uye kunzwa kunotyisa. Nokudaro, rutendo rwunova rwunonyanya kukosha uye runowanikwa kakawanda uye rwakawedzerwa zvakanyanya kupfuura kune mumwe munhu asina dambudziko rekuzvidya mwoyo.
Kufunganya kwemuenzaniso uyu kunogona kutarisa chimwe chinhu chakadai. Kuti akunde kuzvidya mwoyo, izvi zvinotyisa zvinongoda kuputsika.
Acceptance
Imwe nzira yekuputsa mhirizhonga ndeyekudzidzira kubvuma kuti iyo isiri iyo pfungwa dzese dzisinganzwisisi iri kuratidza chikonzero chepamutemo chekutya; kunyatsoisa, kwete mafungiro ose ndeechokwadi. Panzvimbo yekuedza kurwisana nekutenda, nzira dzinogamuchirwa- dzinobatanidza dzinosanganisira kuzivisa pfungwa, kuitaura ("kunetseka" kana "kutonga," somuenzaniso), nekuyeuka nguva iyo inopa chivimbo pamwe nenguva iyo inotanga kudzoka kubva pakuziva.
Mubvunzo
Imwe nzira inogona kubudirira kuputsa kubatana pakati pekunyengedzera mukufunga uye kushandiswa kwemashoko ndiko kugadzirisa kugadziriswa, ibwe rekona nzira yekurapa inonzi Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Kugadziriswa kwepfungwa kunopa nzira yekuongorora zvakadzama pfungwa dzingave dzakakanganisa pfungwa , se " Iye achange achida kuparara neni " kana kuti " Handigoni kufamba kunze kwake, " nekubvunza mibvunzo yezvekutenda kunogona kukurudzira maonero akaenzana chokwadi chakakosha.
Kuchengetedza
Pakupedzisira, kutsvaga chigadziro chinogona kuputsa kushungurudzika nekubvisa kuvimba nemaitiro asingagoneki ekuderedza kuzvidya mwoyo. Pfungwa huru yekutsvaga ndeyekusenderera pakuzvidya mwoyo nekusangana, panzvimbo pokudzivisa, matambudziko anokonzera kuzvidya mwoyo kudzidza nezvakaitika kana kuti hapana chinotyisa chichaitika, kana kuti zvinokanganisa zvinokwanisika zvinokwanisika (uye zvinogona kunge zvichitarisira). Mushure mokunge kana kutarisana nekutya, zvakakosha kuti usabatanidzwa mune chero hupi hunochengetedza hunoita "kuchinja" kudzidza; iyi dzimwe nguva inonzi kunodzivirira kupindura.
Kuenzanisa maitiro emuenzaniso uri pamusoro apa kunosanganisira kuita nemaune kusabvumirana nemukomana kana kufungidzira kuti zvingava sei kupinda mukati mharo huru. Kudzokorora kunobatsira chaizvo nekusununguka, saka zvingave zvakakosha kusawirirana nezvimwe nguva dzose kana kufungidzira hurukuro huru nekudzoka - kusvikira zvose zvichinyanyisa kukunda kuderedza kufunganya. Mhinduro yekudzivirira ichaita kuti uite zvinhu izvi uye usabvunza kana mukomana wako asina kupenga , kana kuti kwete , kuti udzidze kurarama nekusaziva.
Kunyange zvazvo kutenderera kwekuzvidya mwoyo, zvechokwadi, kukuvadza, kuputsa kunyange kubatana kumwe kunogona kufamba nenzira yakareba kuderedza kushushikana uye kuzvidya mwoyo kwaunotungamirira.
References
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