Vanhu vazhinji vane mhirizhonga yehutachiona hwehutano (BPD) vanoona zvakanyanya uye kunyadziswa kusingaperi. Kunyadziswa , manzwiro ekuzvifunga anoenderana nekunzwa kusina maturo, kuzvidzora, kana kuzvidzora pane zvishoma zvingave zvichitsanangura maitiro akakwirira ekuzvikuvadza uye kuzviuraya kune vanhu vane BPD.
Chii Chine Shame?
Tinoshandisa shoko iyo nguva dzose, asi chii chaizvoizvo "kunyadziswa?" Kunyara kunofungidzirwa seimwe yekuzvidzora manzwiro ; iyo manzwiro anoenderana nemafambiro edu kana kuti isu pachedu, kazhinji maererano nekufunga kwevamwe vanhu.
Zvimwe kuzvidya mwoyo zvinosanganisira kunyadziswa uye mhosva.
Kunyange zvazvo mitsetse pakati pemanzwiro aya akave akafungidzirwa nenzira dzakasiyana, imwe nzira yekufunga pamusoro peizvi ndechokuti kunyadziswa kwakasiyana nekunyadziswa kana kuregererwa nokuti tinosangana nemanzwiro maviri aya maererano nehutsika dzedu, asi kunyara kushushikana kunobatanidza zvakananga nesu pfungwa yega. Kuti tinzwisise kusiyana uku, ngatishandisei muenzaniso wechiito chekufungidzira kuti vamwe vanhu vane BPD vanorwisana ne: kushamba kwebhiyo.
Fungidzira izvozvo, nokufungidzira, iwe wakatengesa chimwe chinhu kubva muchitoro. Kunyangwe kana pasina munhu akaziva nezvekutengesa mabasa, unogona kunzwa uine mhosva, kunzwa kuti wakaita chimwe chinhu chakashata. Kana mumwe munhu akawana nezvekuita kwako, unogona kunyara, kunzwa iwe unowanikwa apo vamwe vanhu vanoona kuti wakaita chimwe chinhu chinopesana netsika dzevanhu.
Kunyara, kune rumwe rutivi, kunzwa kuti iwe wakaipa kana wakafanirwa nekuzvidza.
Hazvirevi hazvo nezvehumwe hutano kana chiitiko asi kunzwa kuti hauna kukwana semunhu. Iwe unganzwa uchininipiswa mushure mekunge uchitoroka, asi kunyadziswa kunotakura pamwe nayo kutonga kumwe.
BPD uye Shame
Vanhu vazhinji vane BPD vane ruzivo rwakapararira uye rusingaperi, pasinei nemafambiro avo. Ichokwadi, kutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuti kunyadziswa kunogona kusiyanisa BPD kubva kune dzimwe dambudziko.
Mune rumwe ruzivo, vakadzi vane BPD vakanyora zvinonyadzisa-zvinotaurira kupfuura vakadzi vane hutano hwakanaka kana vakadzi vane hukama hwemagariro evanhu, chirwere chekuzvidya mwoyo chinoratidzwa nekutya kwemagariro evanhu uye kuongororwa nevamwe.
Vakadzi vane BPD uye posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) havakwanisi kunyadzisa-kureva kupfuura vakadzi vane BPD chete. Izvi zvinoratidza kuti kunyadziswa-kutaurira kungave kwakabatana zvakananga kune BPD panzvimbo pane kubatana-kuitika zvirwere zvinoshungurudza.
Ukama Pakati Penyadzi, Kuzvivadza, uye Kuzviuraya
Mukuwedzera pakuwedzera kutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuwirirana pakati peBPD uye kunyadziswa, nyanzvi dzakawanda dzakaratidza kuwirirana pakati pezvinonyadzisa uye kuzvizvivadza kuzvizvivadza nekuedza kuzviuraya .
Kunyara kuzvitaurira kwakaratidzwa kunobatanidza nekutyisidzira kwekare kwekuzviuraya uye zvekare uye zvekare zvekuzviuraya pfungwa. Kunyadziswa kunogonawo kutangira zvikamu zvekuzvikuvadza nemaune. Somuenzaniso, kumwe kutsvakurudza kwakaratidza kuti vakadzi vane BPD avo vakaratidza kunyadziswa kukuru pavanenge vachitaura nezvekuzvikuvadza kwavo maitiro vaiwanzozvikuvadza mune ramangwana.
Kuderedza Shame
Pasinei nekurwadziwa kunorwadza kunokonzerwa nekunzwa kunyadziswa muBPD, vashoma vasayenzi vakaedza kukura kurapwa kunobvisa zvakananga manzwiro anonyadzisa.
Zvisinei, zvimwe zvidzidzo zvepakutanga zvakaratidza kuti ruzivo rweDialectical Behavior Therapy ye "Opposite Action" runogona kubatsira kuderedza kunyadziswa nezvezviitiko zvakasiyana.
Zvinosuruvarisa, vanhu vanofunga zvakanyanya kunyadziswa vanogonawo kunzwa vachida kuvanza kunyadziswa kwavo nekutya kuti vamwe vangavatonga kuti vasagamuchirwe. Asi, izvi zvakavanzika zvinogonawo kupinda munzira yekudzoka. Kana mushandi wako asingazivi kuti uri kunyadziswa, zvichava zvakaoma kuti vapindire.
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