Iko 12 Tsika dzeAA neAl-Anon
Kunyange zvazvo zvikodzero zvehutungamiri mumapoka ane gumi nemaviri-ekutsigira anotsanangurwa zvakananga, kazhinji iyo ndeyo nhengo ivo pachavo ivo vanosarudza kana "ivo" kune boka kana kwete.
Anodhaka Anonymous
Tsika 3 - Chimwe chete chinodiwa kuAA nhengo chido chekurega kunwa.
Al-Anon
Tsika 3 - Hama dzevakadhakwa, kana vakaungana pamwechete kuti vabatsirwe, vanogona kuzvidana ivo veAl-Anon Family Group, kana vakadaro, seboka, havana humwe hukama. Chinodiwa chete kuve nhengo ndeyokuti kune dambudziko rekudhakwa mune imwe hama kana shamwari.
Zvose Zvinodhakwa Anonymous uye Al-Anon vanozarura mikova yavo uye vanopa hukama kune ani zvake anofanirwa nekodzero yakataurwa muTsika 3 uye kazhinji kusiya icho chigadziro kusvika kune mumwe nomumwe. Kunyanya avo vanopinda pamisangano gumi nematanhatu vanofunga kuti vane "pfungwa" yekuti "vauye" kana kuti havaiti uye vanoenderera mberi.
Chikonzero icho Mutsika 3 wakasimbiswa nevatangi vezvirongwa gumi nemaviri-nhanho ndeyekudzivirira kuyanana kubva kune dzimwe nyika; kuve nechokwadi chokuti misangano yaizochengetedza chinangwa chayo chekutanga uye isinganzwisisiki nehuwandu hwevamwe nyaya kana hunofurira.
Dzimwe nguva dzemazuva ano dzinofunga kuti kushamwaridzana kwave kwakaderedzwa nekuiswa mumisangano yadzo avo vari kunyanya kusangana nedzimwe nyaya kunze kwezvinetso nedoro, zvakadai sekushandisa zvinodhaka. Vanofunga kuti purogiramu yacho yakabva pane zvayo zvepamweya uye chinangwa chekutanga uye inogona kudimbiswa kusvika pakuguma kwekusagadzikana.
Asi pane nguva dzose maonero maviri kumagazini ose. Vashanyi panzvimbo ino vakawedzera mazano avo kune ino nhaurirano mubhodhi remashoko. Heano maonero avo:
Rusununguko Rwokusarudza
Iri iri rakanaka kwazvo kwandiri. Ndinotenda kuti tsika iyi ndeyekuti inoti: "Chinodiwa chete ndekuve nechido chekurega kunwa".
Vamwe vangave vasingazivi kana kuti vanotenda kuti vari doro asi vachiri kuda kurarama upenyu husina doro. Handina gakava neizvi. Kune avo vedu vane doro uye havadi kugoverana musangano nevaya vasiri, misangano yakavharwa inowanika.
Ndinogona kutarisira kuti ani naani anoda kusiya kunwa achave norusununguko rwokusarudza Alcoholics Anonymous senzira yavo yekutsigira. Zvichida shoko rokuti "nhengo" ndeyokubata. Mumwe haasi "ane" kuti ave nhengo yeAlcoholics Anonymous. Isu tine rusununguko rwekusarudza. Tinofanira kuremekedza "misangano yakavharwa" maitiro kuitira kuchengetedza nheyo dzomudzimu dzisina kuzivikanwa .
Ndinoda kuvhara neizvi. Madzibaba ekugadzwa eAA akadzidza kuburikidza nekuedza uye kukanganisa. Ini ndiri mutendi wemwoyo. Ndinoda AA kuti ave pano pose apo mumwe munhu achitsvaka rubatsiro. Sezvazvakanga zvakaita kwandiri. Ichi ndicho chikonzero tsika dzakateyiwa. Ndichavadzivirira kune zvakanakisisa zvandinokwanisa.
Magic
Doro Ndirapa Mishonga
Ini ndinonzwa kuti mitemo yacho yakafanana kana uyo anoshungurudza ari kushandisa doro kana zvinodhaka. Kuva nemhando dzose dzevashandisi muupenyu hwangu, chirongwa hachina kuchinja. Zvechokwadi, doro chirwere . Handisati ndasangana nomunhu anodhakwa anokwanisa kutamba nemishonga kana zvimwe.
Kwete kuti ndakanga ndapoteredza nguva iyo yose yakareba. Manzwiro acho akafanana uye ndizvo zvakaita mararamiro ekudzorera kana iwe uchidana iyo Alanon kana NarAnon.
Debbi
Kwete Humwe Kubatana
Ndiri nhengo yeAl-Anon inotenda. Ndinotenda iyi tsika yakajeka ... ndeyomumwe munhu ane shamwari kana yemhuri ane dambudziko rekudhakwa . Handina kumbonzwa pfungwa yokuti chinhu chinoshungurudza hachibvumirwi. Ini ndaisazobvumirana.
Zvichida munhu wacho anomhura nokuti haakwanisi kurarama nehutambudzi hwehuduku hunokonzerwa nekudhakwa. Zvichida munhu wacho anomanikidza kuti aparadze marwadzo kubva kune munhu anodhakwa ane doro. Ndinofunga kuti ALL inofanira kugamuchirwa.
Vanhu vanoverengeka vari mumisangano-chiso nechiso ndakapinda "vari vaviri vanopinda" uye izvo zvinoita kuti ndidada.
Mune rimwe chikamu chetsika iyi ... "kunze kwekuti havana humwe hukama" ... kwandiri zvinoreva kuchengetedza zviri nyore. Ndinofunga kuti zvinoreva misangano yakadai se "vakadzi mukudzoka" kana kuti "VaKristu mukudzoka" ... vari kupesana netsika iyi nokuti ivo vanofanira kutanga vaine rimwe boka. Icho kungongova kududzira kwangu kwetsika iyi.
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Regai Mwari Aite Kutonga
Nguva yangu yokutanga muAA ndaingova doro chete, ndakanga ndisina kunyengera nemishonga (zvakadaro). Asi pane vanhu vazhinji vaiuya muAA panguva iyo avo vaiva nechinetso chemishonga, uye ini ndinoshandisa kunzwa zvakawanda zvakasiyana zvekutaura pamusoro pazvo. Ndakanzwa zvakare kuti yakaburuka kubva kuhofisi yepamusoro yatinogona uye inofanira kuvabatsira zvakare.
Nguva yangu yechipiri muAA, vanotenda Mwari havana kundiudza kuti ndakanga ndisingagamuchirwi nokuti ikozvino ndakanga ndisingori doro chete asi ndakashungurudzwa pamishonga zvakashata zvakashata zvakashata. Kana isu tose tichishanda matanho gumi nemaviri , nenzira imwecheteyo, inoshanda kune drugger pamwe chete uye sezvakataurwa kare, "doro chirwere."
Handisati ndamboona drugger uyo asina dambudziko rekunwa zvakare. Ini ini handizombotendeuki kune anonzi drugger, ivo vari pamwe chete. Kana munhu asiri muAA ivo vakazvicheka ivo pachavo. Ungadai uri wepurogiramu yekudya here kana iwe uri ganda?
AA akandipa zvigadziro zvekubatsira vanhu muhupenyu, kwete chete kana vari doro kana drugger, asi vanhu mumativi ose ehupenyu. Handisi mutongi kutendeutsa munhu chero nguva chero ipi zvayo. Ichi ndicho chikonzero takavhara misangano. Ngatitenderei Mwari kuti atonge.