Kuzvidya mwoyo kwevanhu mune zvekugarisana uye kutaurirana hakusi zvinhu zvakafanana, zvisinei kuti kutarira kwevanhu vakawanda kunogona kuita kuti iwe ufunge saizvozvo.
Kusiyanisa Pakati Peku Introversion uye Kuda Kwemagariro evanhu
Vanhu vane kushungurudzika mune zvemagariro vangavhundutsa hutano uye kushanda kwemazuva kwemavhiki kana vhiki vasati vaitika, dzivisa zvinhu izvi nenzira iyo inopesana nehupenyu hupenyu hwezuva nezuva (kufunga-kutya kuenda kunotengesa, kuenda kuchikoro, kana kutoenda kunze yemusha), uye kazhinji vane maitiro asina kunaka (mumashoko evanhu, mafungiro) pamusoro pavo uye mano avo ekufamba munyika yevanhu.
Kusiyana neizvi, tsanangudzo yekutsvaga haina chokuita nekuva nehanya, kutya, kana kuzvidzora . Introverts inogona kunge yakanyatsovimba nenzira yavo yakanyarara uye yakakosha. Zvinogona kuve nyore kuwandiswa nekunze kwekusimudzira, izvo zvinogona kuita kuti vadzoke kubva mumamiriro ezvinhu evanhu-asi hazvifaniri kutiza kumvura yekushambidzira uye kuzvirova ivo pachavo nokuda kwehupenyu hwavo hwose. Pane kudaro, vangazopukunyuka kuti vaverenge bhuku rakanaka, vave vega nemafungiro avo, kana kungogutsikana nekunyarara.
Iyo inofadza, zvakadaro, apo kushungurudzika kwevanhu munzanga uye kupindirana kwevanhu kunopera.
Introversion uye Social Social Distress
Fungidzira kwekanguva kuti pasinei nokuti unoedza zvakadini, iwe haugoni kuzviwana iwe sekudya chimwe. Zvadaro fungidzira kuti iwe unowira kuti uvewo weergoric kune izvo zvokudya. Iwe hausi kunyanya kushungurudzwa nekuti iwe haugone kudya chikafu nokuti chero nguva yawakadya, hauna kufara nayo.
Ndizvo zvishoma kuti ndezvipi kune vatsva vanovhunduka munzanga.
Havasi kunyanya kuda kuve hupenyu hwepati, hurumende yemagariro evanhu, kana kuti usiku hwakasara. Vanogonawo kusarudza basa rinovabvumira kuti vagare vakanyarara zuva rose vachifungisisa zvinetso zvehupenyu zvakadzama panzvimbo yekutaurirana nevatengi, kupa zvipo, kana kutarisira vamwe.
Panguva imwecheteyo, chido chavo chepanyama chekushandisa nguva yega inounza zvakaoma zvikuru kuzviisa pachena kune mamiriro ezvinhu anokonzera kushushikana. Mubvunzo ndewokuti-zvine basa here?
Chido Chokuchinja
Zvine basa here kana iwe uchigara mubako uye usambosiya kana iwe uri kunyanya kugutsikana mukati memubako pane iwe ungave uri kunze?
Susan Kaini, munyori webhuku rakasununguka rekuti "Akanyarara" aireva kuti isu tinofanira kufambisa mavhisi sezvaanoita uye kuvadzidzisa nekunotsigira chikoro uye nzvimbo dzebasa.
Mumitauro yekuEastern, kuenzaniswa nemadzinza ekuMadokero, kukosha kunowanikwa pahupenyu hwevanhu, uye kuregerera hakusi tsika. Tiri kutarisira here vatinosangana navo mune zvemagariro kuti vazvienzanise nechimiro chakanaka icho hachirevi kushandura kuti kubudirire ivo semunhu mumwe nomumwe?
Kurwisana neIndversion / Social Manheru
Kana tikanyengedza zvikamu zviviri zve equation, zvingava nyore kuuya nemhinduro kune chirabwe ichi. Nokuti tinoziva zvinodikanwa pakuvhura uye izvo zvinodiwa kuti vanhu vazvidye mwoyo.
Inotarisa zvakadai seizvi.
Iyo yekutanga inoda nguva kubva pakusimudzirwa kwevanhu kuitira kuti uwane simba. Hatina mhosva yekutaura kwekuda nguva iyi yekupedzisira nokuti inonzwisiswa kuratidza chikamu chekukosha kwekugadzirwa kwavo kwemuviri.
Sezvo Kaini achitaura zvichibva pakutsvakurudza kwake, mavambo anowedzera zvinokurudzira zvakasimba, ndicho chikonzero ivo vanoda kutora nguva.
Munhu ane chirwere chinokonzera kushungurudzika kwevanhu , kune rumwe rutivi, haafaniri "kupukunyuka" mamiriro ezvinhu evanhu mumamiriro ezvinhu akafanana nemunhu ane chimiro, nokuti kana kushungurudzika kuchibvumira pashure pokunge asiya mamiriro ezvinhu anotambudza, munhu wacho anotenda kuti mhinduro chete yekuwedzera kunetseka ndekutiza .
Asi-kudai kusvitsa kwekutsvaga kwekupedzisira kunopedzisira kwasara kana akangogara mumamiriro ezvinhu kwenguva refu? Zvichida, mafungiro ake aizoora uye kushanda kwake kunopera.
Nokudaro, kana iwe mose makataurirana uye mune zvemagariro evanhu, muchigara mune zvemagariro evanhu uye kushanda mamiriro ezvinhu kwenguva yakareba zvakakwana kuti kunyanya kunetseka kunogona kuve kwakanaka pakuvandudza kushushikana kwevanhu munzanga, asi zvakadini ne pesky iyo inotangira kusvitsa?
Kana iwe ukazosvika pakuona kuti kupa hurukuro pamberi pezera rako hakusiyi maoko ako achidedera, muromo wakaoma, uye mwoyo uchidonha kubva muchipfuva chako-asi iwe unonzwa uine pfungwa mupfungwa mushure mokupa mharidzo yaunopa-wakakunda ? Iwe unogona here kuve wakasununguka pamusana semumwe munhu ane maitiro emagetsi anovaita ivo vachitsvaka manzwiro panguva dzose?
Career Paths uye Introversion / Social Anxiety
Ichokwadi, vazhinji vanoita basa vanoti vanovamo, saJulia Roberts naRobert Deniro; izvo hazvirevi kuti ivo variwo mune zvemagariro evanhu, asi pane kuti vanosarudza nguva nguva voga uye kufunga zvakadzama kuti vasaita zvekutaura.
Kune rumwe rutivi, pane vamwe vanozivikanwa avo vasinganzwisisiki vanowira muchechi iyo yemunhu wese anowanzotanga uye ane hanya nevanhu. Mubvunzo chaiwo unova, nei vakasarudza kujekesa kana chiedza chichikuvadza meso avo?
Zack Greinke mumwe muenzaniso; muchengeti webhokisi uyo anoziva kuti anofunga zvakanyanya uye ave akaonekwa kuti ane chirwere chekushungurudzika kwevanhu:
"Baseball inomutambo iyo kuve benzi uye kuchengeta zvinhu zvakanyanyisa nguva dzakawanda inzira yakarurama yekuita zvinhu ... paiva nevakomana vandaitamba uye izvo zvakanga zvakapusa zvokuti ivo vakanaka chaizvo nokuti pfungwa dzavo hadzina kupinda nzira. "
Kutsanangura Zvinangwa Zvokurondedzera Kurapwa
Mhinduro yacho inogona kunge iri kujekesa zvinangwa zvehupenyu hwako, kurota, zvinangwa, zvido-uye kusarudza zvaunoda kuita kuti uzviite. Greinke aida kuva muchengeti wepamutambo wepachigaro pasinei nekutaura kwake uye kushamwaridzana kwevanhu.
Iwe unoda chimwe chinhu chakanyanya zvokuti iwe unogona kurwisana nechimiro chako chepanyama kuti uwane icho here? Kana mhinduro yacho iiwa hongu, iwe unogona kuva ne "nei" kuti utsanangure kuonekwa kunopesana pakati penzvimbo yako yekunyaradza uye kwaunosarudza kuzviisa iwe pachako.
Kudzokera kumudzivisi wekupukunyuka / kudzivisa, zvinokwanisika here kupokana nehutano hwako hwemagariro kana uchiremekedza chimiro chako chekutanga? Uye ikozvino maitiro ekurapa angatora izvi here? Kana kuti i "imwe-yakakosha-yakafanana-yose" nzira yekushungurudzika kwevanhu munzanga, pasinei nehupenyu hwako (kuderedza chirwere chekuzvidya mwoyo) kungave kutamba pamapato ane mazhenje emusoro wako kana kuti kugara wakanyarara pairaibhurari apo uchinzwa wakadzikama.
Zvichida izvi zvinoratidzirwa nekutya kwemajeri atinonyora?
Ityai maHerarchichi Anoongororwazve
Kana iwe wakamboverenga bhuku rekubatsira pakunetseka kwehutano hwevanhu , iwe uchaziva kuti kutya kwehutungamiri nderwendo rwe 10 kana "izvo zvinotyisa" mamiriro ezvinhu, kufambira mberi kubva pakuzvidya mwoyo-kunokonzera kunyanya kunetseka, izvo iwe unofanira kushanda kuburikidza, kana mu-vivo (muhupenyu chaihwo) kana mumafungiro ako, kana iwe pachako kana uchibatsirwa nenyanzvi, kusvikira iwe ukwanisa kuve nechiitiko chimwe nechimwe usingatambudziki kana kushushikana.
Ko kutya kwemashoko ezvivhiri uye zvinyorwa zvinotarisa zvakafanana here kana zvakasiyana? Tiri tose tichikwira makanho akafanana tichienda kubudiriro here? Unotsanangurirei kubudirira?
Kutsanangura Zvinangwa: Basa Rokuita Basa Rokurovedza muviri
Sekuita basa mukujekesa zvinangwa zvako, zvipindure mibvunzo iyi iwe pachako kuitira kusimbisa izvo iwe unoda chaizvo kuwana mukurapa kwehutano hwehutano hwevanhu:
1. Unofunga kuti iwe unopindira, unofungidzirwa, kana pane imwe nzvimbo pakati?
2. Ndezvipi zviratidzo zvako, zvinangwa, zvinhumba, uye tariro paunouya paupenyu hwako hwega?
3. Ndezvipi zviroto zvako, zvinangwa, zvinhumba, uye tariro paunouya pabasa rako?
4. Izvi zvinoshandiswa muupenyu uye zvido zvehupenyu zvinopindirana nehutano hwako hwekuvhura / kupota?
Zvamuchaona nezvechinangwa chimwe nechimwe ndechokuti havana chavanoita nekunetseka kwevanhu-izvo zvakapiwa. Kana tikatanga nepfungwa yokuti munhu wese anopinda kurapwa ane unhu humwe hwekushaya hutano hunokonzerwa nekuzvidya mwoyo kwevanhu, ipapo danho rinotevera nderekugadzirisa kurapwa kumunhu wekutsvaga / kupota. Uye izvi hazvifaniri kunge zvakaoma, zvinogona kungosanganisira tweaks shomanana.
Mienzaniso yeTranscription Treatment
Ngatitarisei mumienzaniso shomanana yekufungidzira:
1) Fungidzira iwe unofunga kuti iwe uri mutauriri, uyo anorota kwenguva refu-ne-imwe hurukuro neshamwari dzepedyo, uye basa semuchengetedzi wemuziyamu unosanganisira basa rakagadziriswa pamwe nekubatana kwevanhu.
2) Fungidzira kuti iwe uri munhu anonyadzisa akabatwa nehutano hwako hwemagariro evanhu. Iwe unofunga nezvekusimudzira kumera-up comedy asi unzwe uchitambudzika nguva imwe neimwe paunotsika pachikamu. Iwe unowedzera simba neboka revanhu asi kushushikana kwako kwepabonde kunokubata iwe kumashure.
Sezvaunogona kuona, urongwa hwehutano hwekutsvaga hungave hwakasiyana chaizvo kana iwe uri mutauriri kana kuti unodzidza. Munhu muenzaniso mumwe angangodaro aine kutya kwehutungamiri huzere nehutano hwemagariro evanhu apo munhu mumuenzaniso wechipiri angashanda kuburikidza nekushanda kwekutya kutya.
Mune mamwe mazwi, kurapwa kwekushungurudzika kwevanhu kunogona (uye kunofanirwa) kuenzaniswa nemamiriro ako akasiyana.
Common Approaches
Iyi nhaurirano, chokwadi, inodzinga kurapwa kwemishonga uye mamwe mafungiro-maitiro ehutano anosvika sekupikisa pfungwa dzisinganzwisisiki, izvo zvingashandise zvakafanana kune zvose zvinyorwa uye zvinyorwa.
Saka mubvunzo unoramba uripo: Kana iwe ukazviwana uchizadzwa nehutano hwevanhu mumamiriro ezvinhu ehutano semunhu anotaura-iwe unopukunyuka here kukudza kuveura kwako kana kuti kuramba uchiedza kushushikana kwevanhu munzanga?
Zvokwadi, iwe unogona kunge usingaregi kutaurira kwako kwechinguva, kungoita nguva yakakwana yekuvaka kuvimbwa kwaunoda kukurira kushushikana kwako kwevanhu. Zvino iwe unogona kukwanisa kudzokera kukona yako duku yepasi uye unakidzwa nerunyararo.
Hondo yako inogona kuva yakakura kudarika avo vanovhiringidza avo vachapikisa kutya kwavo zuva rega rega nokuti vanongonakidzwa nekuve nevanhu vakanyanya. Panguva imwe chete, yeuka kuti vari kutarisana nehondo dzavo, vachirarama nezvikamu zviviri zvakasiyana zvikuru zvekuti ivo vanofanira kunge vari mukushorwa nguva dzose.
Zvichida kana iwe ukabuda muboka nekuda kwekutambudzika kwako kwevanhu, yako introversion ichakutendai nokuda kwayo.
Sources:
Kaini, S. Quiet: Simba reZvesverts Munyika Isingagoni Kurega Kutaura. New York: Crown Publishers.
Olsen Laney, M. The Introvert Advantage: Vanhu Vakagadzikana Vanogona Sei Kubudirira Munyika Inokurudzira. New York: Workman Publishing.
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