Kugoverana neshamwari kuti uvandudze vanhu vakuru vaudze zviratidzo
Mukuru ADD uye Kuchengetedzwa - Kuzadzisa Zvinangwa nekubatana neHosi
Kunyange zvazvo vanhu vane ADD / ADHD vane tare uye unyanzvi hwokuzadzisa zvinangwa zvavo, kazhinji vane nguva yakaoma yekusimbisa kukwidziridzwa nekukurudzira kuzviita. Zvinogona kuva dambudziko rechokwadi kuti urambe uchitarisa pane chinangwa chekureba kwenguva refu kana kuti kunyange kurangarira icho chinangwa, kunyanya kana zviri nyore kune avo vane ADHD kuti vatsause nezvinhu zvose zvinokurudzira panguva ino.
Dzimwe nguva zvinobatsira kuva nekunze kwekusimbisa kubatsira kuramba uchiisa pfungwa uye kuzvidavirira.
ADHD coaching inoshanda pane iyi pfungwa. Mutungamiri anobatana nevatengi vavo kugadzira hurongwa hwezuva nezuva uye sangano pavanopa rubatsiro nekukurudzira kugadzirisa vavariro uye mibairo nekuchengetedza ivo kunyanya kana zvipingamupinyi zvichiitika.
Dzimwe nguva zvigaro zvingave zvisingakwanisi kubhadhara mudzidzisi weDHD , asi pane zvimwe zvingashandisa uchishandisa nzira imwechete yekudzidzisa ingangobatsira. Mumwe mudzidzi achangobva kunyora mukati kuti ataurire kuti nzira yaanodana nayo "mutual life coaching" yakamununura ndokumudzorera munzira yakarurama:
ADHD uye Mutual Life Coaching
"Ndaiva musayenzi ane ruzivo uye akachenjera," anodaro Roger, "asi flash uye dazzle yakanga yarega kushanda ini. Ndakanga ndichikundikana nebasa rangu, nokuti ndakanga ndisingakwanisi kuramba ndiri nebasa rakaoma kana rakashata kana mhedziso. Dheksheni yangu uye nzvimbo dzaiva dzakashata, uye handina kukwanisa kuwana zvinhu zvinokosha.
Ndaizoshanda nguva yakawanda munguva yemaawa asi handizoita zvishoma. Ndakapinda mune kuora mwoyo, izvo zvakagadzirisa zvinhu. "
Roger aive achiona chiremba chepfungwa uye aizonzwa akanaka uye achitarisirazve pashure pekurapa kwevhiki nevhiki, asi kamwe akadzokera kumba, akazorora zvakare muzviito zvekare. "Dai ndanga ndisati ndava mushandi wehurumende, ndingadai ndakadzingwa.
Mukudzvinyirirwa kwakadzika uye mukusuwa, ndingadai ndaita sangano rekidiki reDD support boka musati nguva refu. "
Roger akanga ari mudzidzisi weAADD nyanzvi, Dr. Edward (Ned) Hallowell, uyo akanyora bhuku rokupayona Drived to Distraction naDkt John Ratey. Apo Dr. Hallowell akasunungura vhidhiyo inonzi ADD kubva paA kusvika Z , Roger akaitenga uye akaiona neboka rake re ADD. "Handina kumbobvira ndave nemwoyo murefu kuti ndione zvose nenzira," anobvuma Roger.
Vhidhiyo yacho yakataurira pfungwa ye "upenyu coaching" kubatsira avo vane dambudziko kuronga hupenyu hwavo nekuita mabasa nezvinangwa. "Hallowell akacherechedza kuti kamwe kamwe pavhiki kana zvishoma kudarika mazano nguva dzose hazvina kubudirira zvikuru kune vamwe vatengi. Vaida zvakanyanya kubatsira. "Roger akaona kuti aida izvi zvakare. "Saka Hallowell akatanga pfungwa yehupenyu yekudzidzisa. Mugove wehupenyu haana kupa kupa mazano asi akapa rubatsiro rwese nguva dzose. Somuenzaniso, "pfupi (semuenzaniso, maminitsi gumi) foni zuva rega roga rokubata kana kubvumirana," ndizvo zvakashandiswa naRoger sekusiyana kweChirongwa cheHallowell HOPE neboka rake rekutsigira kuburikidza neboka reboka pamwe chete kuti vabatsire mumwe.
"Ini nemudiwa wangu takagara zuva roga roga nhare dzefoni pavanenge vashanda vhiki.
Vakanga varipo kwenguva refu patakanga tava kuzivikanwa, asi taive nemaminetsi gumi kusvika gumi nemashanu kana kupfuura tisati tashanda. "Kukurukurirana kwavo kwakaenda seizvi:
H - Hello: Kwazisai uye kugoverana zvitsva kubva pazuva rakapfuura.
O -Chinangwa: kana zvinangwa zvezuva iroro zvine huwandu hwezvinangwa zvitatu.
P - Urongwa: chirongwa chechokwadi chekuzadzisa zvinangwa.
E - Kurudziro: kunyatsotsigirwa, zvakadai sekuratidza kufambira mberi kwenguva.
Roger akatsanangura kuti vashandi vanogona kubvunza mibvunzo kana kugovana zviitiko asi vakaramba kupa mazano. "Zvakaitika kwandiri muAl Anon, boka revadzidzi kune Alcoholics Anonymous (kune vadikanwa kana shamwari dzevakadhakwa) rakanga rakakosha, nokuti AA akapayona 'mubatsiri' uye pfungwa yekusabatsirana."
Zvakanakira Mutual Life Coaching
Roger anobvuma kuti akanga ari kuburikidza nemhando dzose dzehutano hweHADH yake, kusanganisira mishonga , kurapa, kupa mazano uye akanga averenga mabhuku nemabhuku pamusoro pehurukuro. Kunyange zvakadaro, hupenyu hwezuva nezuva hwakaramba hwakaoma. "Upenyu hwehupenyu hwekudzidzisa hunoita kuti hurumende ibudirire," anodaro Roger. "Hazvina kuitika pakarepo. Mavhiki akapfuura, uye handina kukwanisa kubudirira kubudirira pane chimwe chinhu pane zvandinenge ndakatarira kune mumwe wangu. Zvinangwa zvangu zvakaita seine feni yegetsi yakavapoteredza. Ndinogona kuita chero chinhu kunze kwezvaiva pamutsara-kunyange dai zvaiva nyore sekunyorera cheki yebhadharo. Mudiwa wangu akaita zviri nani. Ndaitya kuti aizondisiya. "
Roger anotaura kuti pakupedzisira aka "kurwara uye kuneta nekurwara uye kuneta." Akatanga kuputsa zvinhu mumabasa asingadziviriki, sekuisa pepa pepa uye penzura pahosiki yake. "Ndapedza zvinangwa zvangu zvekutanga. Izvozvo zvakaputsika napamadziro. "Zvishoma nezvishoma, mumwedzi mishomanana inotevera, Roger akatanga kuona kubudirira uye kubudirira, achizadzisa zvizhinji zvezvinangwa zvake. "Ndakapedza zvidzidzo zvikurusa kuburikidza nokuzviputsa muzvidimbu zviduku zvezuva nezuva. Manzwiro ekudanidzira aishamisa! Nokuputsa zvinhu kusvika kune zvidimbu zviduku zvakakwana, ini zvino ndainzwa chero chinhu chingave chakabatanidzwa - nerubatsiro. "
Kusangana kwemasikati kwakanga kusingobatsiri chete. Zuva rose Roger aiziva kuti aizotaurirana nemumwe wake mangwanani akatevera, uye aida kukwanisa kupa mhinduro yakanaka. "Shamwari yangu yakanga isiri ye ogre. Akanga ari parutivi rwangu, asi zvingava zvinonakidza kuva nemashoko akanaka kutaurira kupfuura mashoko akaipa, "anotsanangura kudaro Roger. "Kubiridzira kwakanga kusiri nzira. Izvozvo zvaizondinyura kune imwe gomba randakanga ndisingadi. Saka ara wehupenyu hwekudzidzira hupenyu akagara neni nguva yakawanda. Hapana chinhu chingafananidza kutsigirwa kwevanhu - kana kuchiwanika nenzira yakarurama. "
Mukuwedzera pakuwana rubatsiro, kune pfungwa yakanaka yekupa rubatsiro muhukama, pamwe chete. Roger akabatsira shamwari yake kuzadzisa zvinangwa zvake mukugadzirira uye kupfuura chiongorori chezvenyanzvi iyo shamwari yake yakakundikana pakuedza kwekutanga.
Kuwana ADHD Partner
Imwe nzira yakanakisisa yekuwana mumwe wako ndeyeboka rekubatsira ADHD kana sangano rakadaro. Tarisa mazano anotevera kuti uone kana kune boka rekutsigira munharaunda yako.
Kucherechedza Dambudziko reDhizinesi Association (ADDA)
Vana neVakuru Vane Hanya Nokukanganisa Kunetseka Kwekushaya Matambudziko (CHADD)
Kana boka rekutsigirwa risingawaniki munharaunda yako, shanyira musangano reAdHD muIndaneti kuti uone kana iwe ukakwanisa kuungana nomumwe munhu ane zvinangwa zvakafanana. Iwe unogona kuiwana ichidhura zvikuru kuita mhando dze-foni foni. Kana izvi zviri izvo, e-mail zuva nezuva ndiyo imwe nzira yakanaka yekukurukurirana.
Zvakakosha kushamwaridzana nomumwe munhu waunonzwa uine pfungwa yekuenderana uye kuvimbika. Kubatana uku kuzvipira kwekuda kwekubvumirana kwenguva. Icho kuzvipira kuita shanduko, kuvandudza kushanda kwako kwezuva nezuva, kugadzirisa uye kushanda kune zvinangwa uye kubatsira mumwe munhu ari munzira.
Roger anotsanangura hupenyu hwake hwekudzidzira ruzivo rwezvakaitika zvakanaka:
"Kana vakaroorana vakakomba pamusoro pekufambira mberi uye vakanamatira kuzvipira kwavo, ndiyo mishonga yakasimba zvikuru yandinoziva."
Kuwedzera Kuverenga:
Mushonga we ADD
Kuwana Mupiro Wekurapa
Kufungisisa Kana Une Adhidhi ADD?
Ndinofanira kutaurira vanhu kubasa kuti ndine ADD here?
Nzira dzekubudirira munzvimbo yebasa
Sources:
Roger (zita rakashandurwa nechikumbiro). Kubvunzurudzwa kwevanhu pachavo / email tsamba. 4 ne9 August, 2008.
Edward M. Hallowell, MD, John J. Ratey, MD. Zvinotungamirirwa Nokuvhiringidzika: Kuziva uye Kurwisana Nokufungisisa Kusakanganiswa Kunetseka Kubva Paudiki Kubva Kuvanhu Vakuru . Touchstone. 1995.